Thread: My husband has a porn addiction

Corey, I really appreciate just being able to get it out. Thank you for your support. I know that my husband is crazy about me, I just can't understand these actions of his. Truly, the worst part of my problem is that it is becoming a mental illness for me...THe second of these incidences occurred probably a year ago, and during that time, eventhough I was going to counseling for this issue, it just kept geting worse. I have always had self esteem problems that I think are more related to my past than my actual looks. My friends tell me that I am a pretty girl. But you combine my own personal self esteem issues with his actions, and what you get is a lot of hurt, and pain , and crying, and feelings of inadequacy, and thoughts of getting breast implants, and ultimately...anger! I love this man, and I am going to go to counseling to try to deal with my own issues. But he is going to have to go to counseling too, for my sake. I don't think he has a porn addiction, I think he has a habit that he had before me, that has to go now. I think he needs to read some of this forum, or others, on the topic of how many countless relationships have been destroyed by this. And how many women feel even worse about themselves because of it. Thank you for providing me a place to vent. I can't tell you how much i've needed it.

Try to get some counselling maybe a family preacher or therapist if you don't try to fix this you will end up divorced no one can withstand this horrible addiction it destroys marriages and familes.

I've been married for 21 years to a sex attic. I've beat myself up. Lost 60 lbs became thin and healthy, but it only got worse. He cheated with someone 100lbs bigger and 10 years older. thats the only one I caught him with. but I know there were more. IT IS NOT YOU... I know how you feel. We were in therapy for 2 years and the therapist told him... you can have your wife and family, or you can have porn, one night stands and men oh yeah men too. but you can't have both.
I left for 3 years, I learn to forgive, and he realized he screw up his marriage and family and it wasn't worth it after all. I think its all about be secrative, we recently moved back in together. Do I trust him? I'm cauious. I will not allow myself to go throught what I went through for 10 +years again, I'm strong enough now to get out, and he knows that. We've promised to be totally honest with each other. If one of us wanted to cheat or didn't think it was working we would tell the other. Do what is right for you, trust me! You are prettier thinner and sexier than you give yourself credit. It's his problem and he has made it yours now, Tell him by lying to you, you don't get a choice. If he is honest with you, at least you can make your own decisions as to how to deal with the situation. I know it is easier to say then do, but be strong you owe it to yourself. Good Luck, I hope this helps... As Tina Turner sang "whats love got to do with it".