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Reply With Quoteease up a bit,its just porn. it could be far worse.
He browsed half nude pics once I was gone yet again...
I've posted about my fiance before, and how he's promised to stop with the porn until our sex life reaches a normal level... well today I had to be out for 10 mins, doing some work he was 'too tired' to do and now I found that during that time he was browsing mostly half-naked pictures of a young actress. He's at work now so I sent him a text for him to read when he's on his way home...
I just had to tell someone, as it's very disappointing considering that we've discussed everything numerous times. The worse is that he does it almost every time I'm not home. If he just wanted to check out the actress he could have done it while I was at home, I wouldn't react to that. But it's the 'behind the back' attitude that I hate, even if he knows that I check his computer. I hadn't checked for a while, I do today, and there is some sort of naked woman, as expected. It's so much disappointing when someone behaves like this behind your back. Funny thing is that before I left he said he was going to make coffee, which of course he didn't. pfft, men.
ease up a bit,its just porn. it could be far worse.
He's just being a man. Let him be. For as long as he's giving you the attention (and sex) that you need and want, you're OK. Maybe he's just not comfortable doing his porn with you around. Have you ever thought about talking to him and make YOU as his own porn instead?
What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility. - Leo Tolstoy
The clearest explanation for failure of any marriage is that two people are incompatible; that is, one is male and the other female. - Anna Quindlen
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I know how you feel about things going on behind your back you dont like it you feel he is being sneaky about it but at the same time as long as it doesn't affect the attention that you are recieving and doesn't affect anything else is it really a problem?
Maybe just tell him you dont like the sneakiness part of it, I would talk to him and ask him why he feels like he needs to hide this from you, tell him that your ok about it and would be more comfortable if you knew what was going on there and you would feel less out of sorts. Atleast he is only looking though and as men are visual creatures there isn't any real harm if he is looking everynow and then right?
Can I ask a question here? Why does it affect you that he looks when your not home the more being sneaky or that he is looking? I have a tendancy to think some women wonder what else men can sneak about with if they are generally hiding something small like this am I right?
Like a little kid, sometimes sneaking feels naughtier. It probably adds to the excitement.
Originally Posted by blondie80
it is far worse..he is lying about being tired and he broke his promise to refrain from visiting porn sites..you are a very opened minded woman KFK, but not all men can be trusted with that much rope..
a smart man learns from his mistakes..a wise man learns from the mistakes of others..
sorry about including your post blondie..don't know how i did that..cut me some slack..i only just joined in 2007
a smart man learns from his mistakes..a wise man learns from the mistakes of others..
Seems everyone loves saying pfttt these days,
A promise is a promise, don't make them if you can't keep them... You seem open minded with him, you just "don't like being lied to", you have tried to communicate and from what I can gather, have said it's fine in front of you, just don't sneak makes me feel like I'm being dis-respected.
I agree with Dr Rabbit, um, Mansview...
He's being sneaky.
If watching it doesn't bother you, why not set a time and say, look buster, I want those romps in the bedroom so you can look at it during the day, not at night when we go to bed and NOT when your mean't to be doing something to help us out with chores and get me to do it, cause you claim "tired and coffee".. way unfair to me babe.
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It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
its ok dr mansview i forgive you this time! After all i think you have made a very valid point there!
Personally, I'd find the sneakiness more troublesome than the pics. The two of you made an agreement? He isn't keeping it? Did your agreement include any repercussions if it wasn't kept?
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