I think my sweety made a mistake, and just wanted some feedback and opinions. He gets upset if I make decisions after waiting forever for him to take care of it. After one of these times he got drunk and said things he had to apologize for later. But the kicker is, when I got home after working OT, I found the bed in the extra b-room had been stripped. Not just the linens, but the comforter, dust ruffle and all! This man has never changed a bed since we have been together (5 yrs). Any there was one of the pillows jammed between the headboard and the wall. It is a wrought iron bed and he hates the sound of a headboard banging during sex. He has been acting a little off ever since. I'm almost certain that he has, because he avoids certain discussions, like other friends we have who are cheating. And there are other little hints. But anyway, just curious to see if anyone else sees this pattern or am I being paranoid. PS. He cheated on his ex-wife many times over and she did as well.

He cheated! Now is the time to talk to him tell him that you know all about it and see if he will spill then its time for you to make the descions do you want to keep him? Are you going to be able to move on from this etc...
My hubby has never cheated but a prev boyfriend has and it hurts there are many types of ppl some can deal with it and some like me EXPLODE and never speak to the person again Good Luck whatever you decide.

Men who cheat on woman 1
will cheat on woman 2 ad infinitum.
It is their 'style'.

Some men cheat just to cheat.
Means nothing.
And if you're the kind of woman
who doesn't let him near you with
out a condom or two, and couldn't
care less what he does, cool.

But if you actually want a man to be
faithful...you are married to the wrong one.

This man will cheat on you with any convenient
female.

I can tell you about a man who married a beauty queen...
a woman who not only was drop dead gorgeous, but had
education, money and class.

And he was having an affair with a gal who seemed to
have two left feet and the parking lot attendent wouldn't
leave his wife for her...

How?

I mean people were going to where the Other Woman
worked to look at her. She became a virtual exhibit
because how could a man cheat on someone like his
wife with her?

Why?
He is a cheater.
How?
Two left feet was convenient.

He bawled like a baby when his wife left him.
I haven't seen people bawl like that at funerals.

He really loved his wife, but he couldn't keep his
pants on and she didn't want to settle for him.

So, there's no need for drama.
If you don't want to be with a cheater
then you get rid of him.