Thread: husband mentally abusive when drinking

Thanks for all of the support and laughs. You are all so right and it gives me strength to push forward. The hot sauce and pee is at the top of my list, my goodness that was a belly laugh.

I have watched my mom go through this with my stepfather for almost 12 years, it gets to her all the time. He does drink every day after he gets home from work, and when he's at work he's the perfect professional, only few know of his faults. Over the past few years my mom has learned a few tricks, sometimes she'll walk out and go for a car ride, or basically go hide in another room until he's done with his ranting, the house is pretty big so it would take him a while to find her lol. None of us kids are in the home anymore so obviously he directs everything towards her. Now since this has been going on forever, we decided a long time ago to name that drunking nasty personality, we call him chucky when he's like that. So usually the next day when she wakes up, she goes downstairs, calls him chucky, and makes him feel like the scum of the earth. And of course the apologies start. Now she goes right back at him, it has been happening less frequently over the years. Sometimes, go right back at him, call him things that you never thought would come out of his mouth. Turn it around on him, things will change, maybe not quickly and maybe it wont go away forever but it's a start.