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Reply With QuoteI wish things were easier, there is nothing worse then waking up in the am and feel nothing but despair. I want to feel better I just don't know how.
Wild is absolutely right, get yourself around positive, supportive people asap. It is the only way to heal and close the emotional wound. Try this...
Think about when you were happiest in your life, when you were on your own, confident and in command. Remember how that felt, what you were like... now, try to hit that "reset" button inside of you and get back to that.
Re-center yourself and starting your new life will come completely naturally!
I wish things were easier, there is nothing worse then waking up in the am and feel nothing but despair. I want to feel better I just don't know how.
How he is treating you ought to help in that his behavior is so awful. You can be relieved that you found out this side of him before you had children with him.
When you wake up each morning, stand up, raise your arms, wave them around and say, nice and loud, with enthusiam; I'm alive, I'm awake and I feel great!
You can add a second verse; I feel good, I feel fine, I feel this way all the time!
Start doing positive affirmations. We had a thread or two of those in the lounge, you can so a search and get some good ones.
On my wall are signs saying:
"I am the creator of my destiny."
"I am a magificent being, drawing on an infinite source of love and energy"
"Be bold and might forces will come to your aid."
Find ones that speak to you and what you want in your life.
Find ways to be good to yourself; take care of your body, keep your hair, nails and skin well groomed, don't slob out. You can hit the thrift stores if need be but make even your lounging around clothes something you feel attractive in. Buy yourself flowers, even if it's just one or two. My budget is limited but the local grocery has discounted flowers and many are still in pretty good shape. Workout regularly, stretching, walking, running - whatever works for you. Working up a sweat helps work out the negative feelings. Simply decide that today you will be happy, don't worry about tomorrow. If you slip and start to feel sad don't beat yourself up, just tell your brain, "thank you for sharing" and let go of it. Try forcing yourself to smile, it will actually trigger a change in your body chemistry and elevate your mood.
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
Originally Posted by Empty
He went with what he can handle... NON commital... You said he has a childhood past he can't get over... and being a Father, he can't fathom... It's the reason for all of this.She was literally the town "who#" and had been with so many people and so many other married men, I had kind of pushed her out of our lives for a little while, as did the rest of our friends because we were all tired about her drama and guy issues. Even M said he couldn't stand her being around because all she did was whine and complain. Guess he learned to stand her.
He didn't learn to stand her... He can't learn to take what can be beautiful in life... He can't get over his past what ever that was, and I think you know what that was..
That's the key to this whole mess.
No-one marries, takes loans that will take them years to pay off without wanting.
He doesn't believe.
He doesn't think he deserves.
And the hoe of the town is a better, easier choice.. It's safe.. There's no commitment.
On the same accord, you can't after 10 years continue to try to make him see "it's okay.
I tried with my husband (ex) for 7 and a half after he was used, cheated on, that women are "OK", it's not all women just that one... Didn't doesnt work without finding inner peace.
I did, he hasn't, can't, yours can't...
You do need to see who you are, your worth and that you can not , I repeat, can not, change a person who won't get help for themselves...
I am sorry and I hope you find a beautiful journey for you...
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
Ok so I just contacted a Lawyer, and I'm waiting on a consultation date, and lets get this over with. I'm tired of his games and threats.
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