Walker

I came across 5 CDs in our car that are not mine nor his. I have seen the small amount of CDs that he had when we moved in together and when we sold his truck. It's not even my kind of music.....except for the Lenny one. They are all burned copies with a variety of handwriting, but not his and definatley not mine. (Ken Mo, 50 First Dates, Alasdair Fraser & Natale Haas, Lyle Lyvett)
I found the Lenny CD in the player last week while we were driving somewhere and asked him. He told me that he thought it was mine. I wwould remember that, but he seemed convincing enough that I let it go. Now I find all these other ones. So I texted him. (He's up North visiting and helping his Dad at work this week) He laughed said it was probably mine again. I started to get upset because this for sure are NOT mine. He said "are you going to accuse me of something or what?" When I got upset he hung up.....I know he's busy right now so it's hard to tell if he is evading it or busy....
What do you think? Would you feel the way I do, or am I just tripping?

I know it's not much to build on. It's just unsettling. I would understand if he told me someone from work gave them to him. I asked him that and if his friend left it. He said no. He just said that they are probably mine and that I just don't remember. Thanks for you opinions.
I do trust him, but have some trust issues from a long time ago when we were just dating. I've not had any reason in a long time to feel this way, but I just don't understand where they could come from then.....

CHANDLERS WISH

Ahh can't see anyone is going to be able to answer you sweet, cause it's he said she said and nil result.

Yes, I think that if he was covering, it's easy to say a mate from work, Dad's anything, but to laugh and say probably yours and then get peeved because you have had issues in the past with him over trust, from the sounds of it he didn't do wrong, you just had trust issues.

I'd say wait till you see lipstick on the color, or different shirts or things that spell cheating..

A tape after all is really just a tape. He may in-deed not want to say, yeah their my mate's girlfriends/wifes because of your trust issues.

Just let it go I think.

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Yeah.. or it could be from friends or office mates? your hubby might give a ride from someone our there and that someone left CD unintentionally and your hubby didn't notice it at all. thats why he said maybe its yours..

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Is there any reason you believe he would cheat?

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rcoreyus

Trust is a funny thing. One time my wife found a pack of condoms in the trunk of my car (we don't use them). We had just returned from a trip with a male friend and I said they must have fallen out of his bag. She believed me. And - it was true.

Once I found a strange bottle of shampo in her bathroom. She said it belonged to a guy (same one) who would sometimes go running and stop by our place for a shower. I believed her.

I think one should trust in a relationship until there is an absolutely clear singn that the trust has been violated - and then leave the relationship.

Joy

If they are not yours and not his........ throw them in the garbage who will really care if they are gone if they don't belong to anyone

stressed

That one reminded me of a time when I found that a condom was missing from an unused pack while I was away. I joked about it and sent a text saying "there's one condom missing in the bedroom :-P". He came home worried asking me if I had used it with someone else and if I was making a joke out of it. It turned out that neither of us remembered that we had used it to make a balloon out of it...

Trust is a funny issue indeed.

Hopeless Dork

Trust is a funny thing. A while back I saw a female name I had never heard of added as a friend on a social networking program me and my bf both use. We spend every waking moment together, and know all each others business and it was a name I'd never even heard mentioned.

I trust him, I really do... but I just kept wondering who the heck it was. The person had no picture, and was set to private. I wasn't freaking out... but I was so curious.

I caught myself becoming suspicious, is it an ex? Someone he just met? Who the heck is it! lol.

Finally I brought it up in casual conversation and it turned out to be a distant elderly reletive. I felt like an idiot (on the inside... because I hadn't let on how I worried for a few days about it).

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laurabeth

All I can say is that when you hear hoofbeats think horses, not zebras. If your gut tells you he's lying and there's no other explanation that is half as reasonable, then yes, he's lying. Where you go from there is an entirely different matter. Frankly, that is the harder question. You have to really examine yourself and your relationship to decide the next step. Then, stick to your guns!