Hello I am a new member. I really need advice urgently as I am about to uproot myself to go live in New York with my husband. I recently foind out -August,'06, that my husband was having an affair for 2 years. So he says. We have been married 25 years plus the 6 years we courted.

These are the questions;

Will you be totally or mainly dependent on your husband
if you go to New York?

Where is your family/friends? How much do you depend
on them?

Where is the female he was having an affair with?

Why are you moving?

The answers to these questions will tell you how 'at risk'
you are or may be of finding yourself extremely vulnerable.

Kaylar is right. Investigate first. Then make a decision. .