Thread: Separation

Divorce him NOW!

Kick him out now and get a restraining order too.

amom is right. This man has problems
and you are not qualified to deal with them. He is marching into
depression because he wants to.

There are men who only become men after everyone kicks
them out and they have no one to fall back on.

I can think of one...54 years old, whose wives dumped him,
who wound up living on his mother, until she died. He can't
live on his children because most of them don't like him, one
of them is fairly worthless and the other has a young baby
and a wife that will toss him out.

And so, suddenly, he can work.

You have the same kind of guy. He will drain you down
to nothing. You have to get as far from him as possible.
Divorce is good, moving far away is even better.

I agree with the other women, get rid of him. Since it has only been a year you can't say that you wasted alot of time on him if you divorce him now. My husband and I are separated so I can understand your feelings on the space issue. My husband does not know how to give me space either to sort things out and it can be very annoying. They just don't get why we need time to sort things out and really think about what we want or how to make things better. In your case I don't think you can do anything that will make things better. In my case I don't think so either and I just continue to feel guilty everytime I turn him down when he asks to see me. I have no real advice for you because I am such a mess in my own situation but I wish you all the luck and think that you should listen to the advice of these other women and really do what you feel is right for you and what will make you happy.

He came home 4 weeks ago saying how much he loved me and understood that he needs to be the stronger one and be nice to my daughter and that he thinks she would come around. He started his own business, license and everything. Well, here goes.

He comes home, the honeymoon lasted about 2 weeks. Into another arguement and he says how he doesn't respect me or my parenting (I am a push over to a point, but she doesn't live at home and there is not much I need to do except be there for her). In 4 weeks, he has purchased a van $1,000.00 for his business along with other things and has given me $300.00.

Everything is starting to revert back to the way it was. He doesn't like my daughter (she is 19 1/2 and has alot of growing up to do). I am trying to be there for her, yet keep my distance from being responsible for her. Her friend left some doo doo and paper towels near our curb, he didn't talk to her when she came over because she didn't know her friend had done that and said that she didn't but would clean it up. I didn't get all over her, just asked that she clean it up. He thinks I should get all over her and yell and scream. When I say he didn't talk to her, not ever a word. And she walked by him numerous times. I don't know what to do regarding whether to leave him because he can't seem to get along with my daughter, how will he treat my grandchildren if they misbehave. Ignore them?

Help.