My husband and I have been separated for 2 months and he called to say that while I'm at work he is going home to lay in our bed so that he can smell me on our sheets. Does that sound weird to anyone? or is there something wrong with me? I think that it sounds weird and kinda obsessive and to someone else they might think that is sweet. Not a really big deal, I was just wondering what someone elses thoughts were on that. Thanks.

This is extremely freaky, and I thought he should
have been locked out of the house.

He is giving you the big buildup, because he
has now dedicated his life to 'winning' you back.

If he wins, your life will become a living
where he punishes you for all the days he
had to court you.

Thanks Kaylar! I would have locked him out of the house but since he is off on Thurs. he picks up our son from school so that they can hang out while I'm at work. I am able to laugh now about it but when I first heard him say that I didn't know what to think except-ewwwww.

So my mom says that my husband is just trying to be sweet because he misses me so much. I know that he misses me alot but I think he should keep these comments to himself. Maybe I just feel the way I do because I am not in love with him anymore and when I am around him he acts so pathetic. I think my mother is crazy sometimes with the things she says because she knows everything that has gone on and she should be on my side and not feeling sorry for him. He is the one that was so awful to me that I fell out of love with him. Well just wanted to vent that because it always makes me feel better to get it out. Thanks.

Ladies, I would have to say I respect both you all imensly as I have read your threads and comments. You both, ver much, seem to know exactly what to say and how to say it. Many cheers to you! The only thing I have to say indecisive is that when someone treats you wrong for so long, you react in the ways you have been treated. For example; I read one of Kaylars threads about infidelity regarding a man and a woman and a man would cheat if given the right opportunity it just happens and woman needs a reason to. I think what I am trying to say has a lot to do with that. Don't feel bad about the way your husband has treated you. Your feelings right now are healthy and good. How can he expect you to feel anything for him after all he put you through, and only you know all the details. I understand trying to work on a marriage for your children and so forth but in the end you have to do whats going to make yourself happy and whats best for your family. I grew up in a home where my mother was always angry and yelled and screamed at my father cause she just wasn't happy. And then from the experience that I went through as a child, I put the same kind of attention towards my husband when I was upset. It took us seperating and a couple counceling sestions later for me to see that but do what is healthy for you. Only you know what you want to happen and not want to happen so make your life easier honey. I hope I helped a little bit and I pray you girls have a wonderful a safe weekend! God Bless darlin!

Men try everything.
You see; saying 'she dumped me'
or 'she threw me out'
doesn't have much sex appeal.

Many men fight to get their
wives back so that they can
dump them.

I couldnt' agree with you more Kaylar. That was my first thought but you had the courage to say it. Well done! This man can not keep playing with you and your childrens hearts like this. I know it is tough on your children but you have to do what is right for them. If he doesn't have your family best interests at heart then I would ask him to leave. If I were in your shoes, I would take some time off from work, take my kids on a minnie vacation and explain to them the situation (in childs terms). The will be kinda side tracked and they will listen but still have fun. That is what my mother did with us. I just hope everything works out for you doll. You definatly dont deserve any of this and neither do your kids!

lilwifey has a very good idea...
along with the 'mini vacation'
juggle the time.

For example, if you're supposed to
be home at X time, instead take
the kids to pizza.

Have them sleep their friend;s
house.
Invite your friends over.

Have some kind of function in your
house...i.e. a book club or poetry
reading...

Anything to put him on the back foot.

---
For example;
Members of a club were working on a project
at wife's house.
One of them saw a suspicious man in the
bushes while the wife was not there...
called the police.

Oh yeah, that was embarrassing,
mostly for the husband.