My fiance doesnt initiate sex

Pokahontaki · 10-11-2009, 12:18 PM

I`ve been living a guy for seven months. The sex is very good when we have it and i am the one who initiates it. He does it sometimes, but only when we wants to start with oral sex. It hurts. I take care of my appearance, wear sexy underwear in bed, he says i am beautiful, but does nothing. I do not know what to do. He says i am making a problem where threre isnt any. i am 32, he is 33.What do u think?

**caterpillar79** · 10-11-2009, 12:26 PM

Maybe he has a low sex drive. Does he masturbate a lot? If this is the case, ask him to reserve some for you.

Pokahontaki · 10-11-2009, 12:29 PM

He says he is satisfied with our sex life. We have it about once a week. What bothers me is that i find porn on his comp almost every day.

**caterpillar79** · 10-11-2009, 12:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pokahontaki

He says he is satisfied with our sex life. We have it about once a week. What bothers me is that i find porn on his comp almost every day.

OK. He has porn addiction and he probably masturbates on those as well. Leaving you with the last juice to squeeze. I am sorry to learn about this. Your man has to realize that it is important that he share this with you as frequent as you need it.

Have you sat him down and aired your laundry? He must know. If you have told him, and he is not proactive about it, you have to think if this is what you want. Are you going to put up with his cr*p?

**AloneNtheCrowd** · 10-11-2009, 12:38 PM

Yeah maybe he should lay off of the porn... also He my be.."shy" well that's not the right word, but some guys may want it, but don't know how to smoothly initiate it. I've had that problem in the past... after seven months he should know you are ready and willing though. Have you ever rejected him or turned him down from not being in the mood? If that happens a bit, a guy may pull back and wait for you to initiate or give some really obvious hint... just some thoughts....

Pokahontaki · 10-11-2009, 01:20 PM

I have told him, just didnt mention i knew about the porn. It may sound as an intrusion into his privacy. At first i thought it was just a low sex dry, but how does the porn fit into it?

Pokahontaki · 10-11-2009, 01:21 PM

low sex drive

**caterpillar79** · 10-11-2009, 01:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pokahontaki

I have told him, just didnt mention i knew about the porn. It may sound as an intrusion into his privacy. At first i thought it was just a low sex dry, but how does the porn fit into it?

We'll have to wait till the men in this forum gets to you. Since it's weekend, they are busy doing their stuff...*go figure.

As for me, I think his low sex drive equates to being lazy "performing" the deed. He'd rather get off just using his hand. Get the point?

How old are you both? (I think I missed that).

**caterpillar79** · 10-11-2009, 01:32 PM

Oh, I got it...so you are still young to have this issue on physiological aspects such as erectile dysfunction or such. But, you may want to look at having him checked by a specialist. He might have a medical condition that leads to his low sex drive. Just a thought.

Pokahontaki · 10-11-2009, 01:42 PM

i dont think he has erectile dysfunction, he can go on for hours.
We r 32 and 33. I do think he is lazy performing the act. Does it mean he doesnt find me attractive enough?

10-11-2009, 12:18 PM	#1
Pokahontaki Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 7	My fiance doesnt initiate sex I`ve been living a guy for seven months. The sex is very good when we have it and i am the one who initiates it. He does it sometimes, but only when we wants to start with oral sex. It hurts. I take care of my appearance, wear sexy underwear in bed, he says i am beautiful, but does nothing. I do not know what to do. He says i am making a problem where threre isnt any. i am 32, he is 33.What do u think?

10-11-2009, 12:26 PM	#2
caterpillar79 Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: MidWest, USA Posts: 1,401 Blog Entries: 52	Maybe he has a low sex drive. Does he masturbate a lot? If this is the case, ask him to reserve some for you. __________________ Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, but learning how to dance in the rain.

10-11-2009, 01:32 PM	#9
caterpillar79 Gold Contributor 500+ Posts Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: MidWest, USA Posts: 1,401 Blog Entries: 52	Oh, I got it...so you are still young to have this issue on physiological aspects such as erectile dysfunction or such. But, you may want to look at having him checked by a specialist. He might have a medical condition that leads to his low sex drive. Just a thought. __________________ Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, but learning how to dance in the rain.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Email this Page
Display Modes
Linear Mode Switch to Hybrid Mode Switch to Threaded Mode

Similar Threads
Thread	Thread Starter	Forum	Replies	Last Post
Too wet to feel anything, bf doesnt either	Pokahontas	Sex	9	06-02-2009 02:41 PM
She doesnt like sex anymore...	mpac	Dating	8	03-01-2009 08:52 PM
she DOESNT know everything!!	switzgirl	Motherhood	5	08-15-2007 09:40 AM
doesnt anyone know anything about IUIs	faithsmom	Pregnancy	0	08-08-2007 07:40 PM

10-11-2009, 12:29 PM	#3
Pokahontaki Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 7	He says he is satisfied with our sex life. We have it about once a week. What bothers me is that i find porn on his comp almost every day.

10-11-2009, 12:38 PM	#5
AloneNtheCrowd VIP Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: South Carolina Posts: 64	Yeah maybe he should lay off of the porn... also He my be.."shy" well that's not the right word, but some guys may want it, but don't know how to smoothly initiate it. I've had that problem in the past... after seven months he should know you are ready and willing though. Have you ever rejected him or turned him down from not being in the mood? If that happens a bit, a guy may pull back and wait for you to initiate or give some really obvious hint... just some thoughts....

10-11-2009, 01:20 PM	#6
Pokahontaki Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 7	I have told him, just didnt mention i knew about the porn. It may sound as an intrusion into his privacy. At first i thought it was just a low sex dry, but how does the porn fit into it?

10-11-2009, 01:21 PM	#7
Pokahontaki Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 7	low sex drive

10-11-2009, 01:42 PM	#10
Pokahontaki Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 7	i dont think he has erectile dysfunction, he can go on for hours. We r 32 and 33. I do think he is lazy performing the act. Does it mean he doesnt find me attractive enough?