Thread: Should You Answer Your Husband/Fiance Cell Phone?

I think the whole cellphone accessibility thing falls under what the intent of having the cell there for viewing is. I really don't care if my boyfriend looks at my phone, or if I'm in the shower or something and he answers for me. He usually doesn't do that unless he sees its a mutual friend on the caller ID tho, but I couldn't care less anyway. It's just a phone.. he's not trying to look for something I might be doing behind his back, and I'm not trying to hide anything. I'll occationally answer his phone too if he's not by it and its someone calling he was expecting or a mutual friend. Or I look at his texts cuz his friends send him some pretty hilarious pic messages, but not because i'm searching for something sleazy.


HOWEVER, if he's looking at my phone and answering my calls as a way to try to "CATCH" me doing something wrong or to constantly check up on me because he has trust issues, then I would NOT be happy and would NOT let him near my phone. As far as I'm concerned, its more offensive that someone is so mistrusting that they constantly check up on their sig. other w/o any real reason for it. Usually those insecurities arise because of stuff the insecure person is doing or thinking of doing themselves (Funny how cheaters are always worried their partners are cheating, isn't it?).

SO basically, if you're viewing the cell innocently fine. If you're using the cell for some kind of investigation into if you can trust your partner, not cool. Cells won't answer that question for you. You will probably end up reading too much into an innocent call/txt, and the whole relationship can be damaged over a misunderstanding because someone was SPECIFICALLY looking for some sign of cheating and thinks they found it (self-fullfilling prophecy anyone??).