How To Be Uplifting...??
I was born & raised in a negative environment my whole life. I have never really got encouraged or praised when I had good behavior, good in school, or just thrown a positive comment.
I don't know how I did it, but my husband of almost 6 years (almost 3 years of that married) LOVED it when I encouraged him, pushed him, be to there for him, etc...
I am currently 7 1/2 months pregnant. I don't want to use that as an excuse,
but lately, he's been needing that encouragement and I just be too daggone tired to even find the words to make him feel better. I just roll over & go to bed.
I try & try to stay awake but this pregnancy has made me just ... I get soo fatigued. When I am awake, trying to uplift him, something negative ALWAYS slips out. Lately, I have been VERY negative & I don't know if it has anything to do with me being tired & not wanting to be bothered.. or what?!!
Our Current Situation Is:
*We're waiting on his M.G.I. bill from the military; so our income is just from his p/t job (25 hours/wk job) - and I receive very little money from the state.
* Because of limited income - We're living with my mother.
*He's in school full time with ABSOLUTELY no school books.
*We're sharing our way of transportation with my mother's car.
We're also working on our marriage in different areas- but me being negative doesn't help much.
Sometimes when I do speak, I don't look it as being negative, I look at it as being realistic. In most cases, the situation/fact is realistic.
Anyways,
I DON'T WANT TO LOSE MY HUSBAND, AS I DO LOVE HIM VERY MUCH.
Somewhere along our relationship, I lost my touch...
I NEED SOME SORT OF HELP, PLEASE HELP ME WITH WORDS -
WHEN:
-HE'S DOWN.
-HE NEEDS HELP WITH TRYING TO PASS EXAMS W/O PROPER STUDY MATERIALS.
-HIS CONFIDENCE IS DOWN.
-HE HAS DREAMS BUT THEY'RE CURRENTLY ON HOLD BECAUSE OF OTHER LIFE SITUATIONS.
-HE NEEDS TO COME TO ME...
I APPRECIATE ALL OF YA'LLS HELP. THANK YOU.
Firstly, I think your putting yourself down to much.
Your making excuses for why your so tired, negative and It's refreshing to hear the love you have, just in the way you write.
Your hormones would also be jumping and that bubbly little self, can't be 100% when pregnant and naturally, in addition your tired.
I hope your eating well and taking vitimins because you would be a bit run down as well.
Tell him your proud of him, he obtained a job and he's studing and being a husband, and you couldn't ask for more. That should help his confidence.
Can he google to get information about what he is studying? What is he studying? Maybe there are people here that are in the know.
Dreams are rewarding, have him write them on a post it sticker and attach it to a mirror and tell him those dreams are real and they will come true and to never give up on them. Tell him to view them daily to remind himself of his future.
You both need to go for walks, hand in hand .. Living with Mum is great but it's also depressing when you are a "family" so do things outside of the house, together...
Be honest with him, and tell him your tired ask him to hold you, tell him he's your Knight and you want him to hold you so you can fall asleep with knowing that your man has got you.
It's the little words I believe that count.
CW
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
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