Thread: why does he have to be a jerk?

Leave it.

You are tired.
You are not accustomed to working so hard.
Let the house go to .

Sooner maybe later, maybe never, it will
get done.

One of the things that is non negotiable is health.
You work yourself into exhaustion there is no quick
fix.

Trust me, no matter how dirty something gets, you
can eventually clean it...(imagine an old house with
a toilet that is virtually black from rim to bend...)
eventually that can be spotless....
so leaving it for another day/week/month....
but your health can't be quick fixed.

Leave it.
Come home, and lie down.
I don't care if you have to climb over a mountain
of laundry, fight through a barricade of dirty dishes
and lie on a bed where the sheets haven't been
changed for a month...
lie down, relax....
the world won't end if the bathroom isn't cleaned.

He certainly isn't being understanding or sympathetic to your needs at all. Sounds like he needs to grow up. You're not the only one that dirty's the dishes, messes up the restroom, and wears clothes. Hire a maid. If he doesn't like it, then maybe he will contribute to the chores.

today he was understanding again but i also guilted him with bad new about my mom which i will talk about in another post. but anyways thanks for all your imput. sure does help to vent.

Tell me something... I've been dating this guy now for nearly 5 years. We have a son together (almost 4) and we do not live together. I have 2 other children from my previous marriage and he has another son from his previous marriage. When I got pregnant with our son, I didn't quit smoking entirely. Yeah, I know it wasn't right, but I was so stressed out at the time - with him. So, for the past 3 1/2 years he's been using that as an excuse for why we "can't move forward". I have tried everything to quit smoking and it's so very hard. Just when I get on a roll with not doing it, something falls from the sky and knocks me down again and I haven't learned NOT to pick up that thing! Anyway - over the course of the this time with him, I've moved countless times - including back to my parents house. When I moved into my aprt nearly a year ago, I made it perfectly clear that when my lease is up, I'm going to be buying a house of my own unless something else came up. Well, the time has come and I'm set to close on my VERY FIRST HOME on 3/5! He's as far from supportive as he could possibly be. All we've done is fight about it. About me doing this in general, about the location of the house, about how it keeps us from being together and about how we'll continue paying 2 different housing expenses. Well! It's been that way for years and I've waited on him to make some room in his life for me and he hasn't because I didn't quit smoking! His house won't even accommodate us all! Does he have a valid right to hold this over my head? And/or am I so completely wrong for securing a safety net for myself and my children? I'm anxious to hear what other's have to say.