Thread: Why do we stay??

We live off of hope.

We as women, are born to have children and as such we are born to be understanding, we think therefore, just like with children that "they will grow out of it".. mistaken for "they will change"... We carry on with the "understanding" put a few "foot's down" to allow ourselves to be heard but it goes on deaths ear.

All women need to do a course, in my opinion on "touching on their inner selves, locating whom they are and what they want out of life, being in touch with the beauty of themselves, in every sphere... so that they know their true self and therefore, dis-associate from the "Mother" figure, to the "individual person"... whom they are.

Strangely, it's thought in my opinion that our parents and theirs had it easy, they loved each other, "stayed together", great friendships with each other. But, this is not reality. In those days, you stayed together, in those days, women didn't get to know their bodies, and "want", I don't even think they really knew about oral either, at least for themselves, it was about "pleasing the man", which is your take on this. It was about, cooking, cleaning, having his babies whilst he worked, it was about him, not her and sex was about having babies, not about intimacy, not about reaching a soul... Or, it was plain sex, which made the woman permissive, often someone else's "mistress", or a in the true sense of the Industry...

Women of all eras had goals, targeted men with vulvernability to succeed in their lives financially, often claiming lovers along the way, only to be murdered by their husbands once established, it's factual...

Then there were women whom purely believed marriage is forever, anything in-different is shunned out and so they accepted, his infidelities and coldness and lived a life of "sometimes fear" most often lonliness, solitude and sex, not intimacy.

Today we have choices. Today women work. Today, we don't have to accept anything we don't want to, today we have freedom of choice and of speach and of employment opportunities.

So, as we are bought up in a world of our parents, we are bought up insecure, because society has changed but this I will get into trouble over, men haven't.. They still see a wife as exactly that, there for him in most cases and she can work and bring in income and then work at home tending to all the childrens needs and his, he has difficulty himself with "change"..

But again, some men, have had many a failed relationship and have questioned why and have taken the time to learn intimacy, emotions, love and commitment and faithfullness and with communication coupled into that, have an exciting and excellent partner in crime/life from that knowledge.

But again, some women live in the past and "expect" from a man, to know her emotions, not understand his sexuality and being a lady out of the home and a tart with her husband in her home, as well as a loving partner.

It's a different world...

So, with the only knowledge you know, you go through the same "types" and keep making the same "mistakes", until one day you can stand in front of the mirror and say "I know exactly what type of man I am after and what I have had and I will cross my legs until he is there"... or have a good time, waiting

It starts with us.

It starts with the inner you.

And, it starts with trust in yourself that you know exactly what journey you want in this life.

Then you don't take the punishment, you do leave and you do not fear.

And, you do not settle ever again.

CW