Thread: I should have known..I should have left long time ago

Originally Posted by denise lyn

Where do I start. I have been married since 1991. 2 kids 15 and 10. even when we first got married my husband always was partying with neighbor and never home. even when I was pregnant. I tried leaving several times , packed the kids up and was going to go to my sisiters. NEVER did I always turned around. My husband since than has always been on the computer 24/7. Back in 1998 I left him to go back to Mass. we were living in NM. He never forgave me. When I came back after 3 months he started shoving and hitting me..I never called the police but tried to get his parents to help but that was no good!

Eventually one night he was talking to women on the computer and I got mad and thats when he really hurt me. I have been locked out etc..He even ripped the phone off the wall. I called from a pay phone and the police arrested him. Well we went to court, and when I was leaving he was so sad and said how much he loved me and wanted me back. I took him back.

Now lets forward to NOW: For the last few months I KNEW something was up. My daughter and I heard him say "HONEY" to someone on the computer. Than a few times I would find a washcloth under his computer desk,,You figure it out.

How could I be so BLIND???? Last night I went to check on my ebay and I noticed he left his mail open... Well I found it! Love emails between him and some lady. They play world of warcraft together.

I confronted him and he blames it all on me!!!!
This man when I was pregnant with my daughter would not even get out of bed to take me to the ER because I was having terrible pains. (he had hurt his eye earlier that day at work. ) So I was left taking care of it my self.

When our family drove out to NM to live from MASS. I got lost driving and when he woke up he called me A DUMB F......


There are so many other storys I could tell. I am all alone out here and don't know what to do now. He says he stays on the computer because of me. I say my kids are just as negelected by him so how can it be me???

He plays mind games with me to make me feel like NOTHING. I have not worked in a long time and supporting my family without him will be so hard.... I told him last night to leave but he is scaring me with all the things he says. He has never spent time with either of the kids ever...I can't go in my bedroom at night until he comes and gets me. Thats because he is done playing on the computer. Even in the past when I was sick and asked to go to bed he would yell and say Gee can't I listen to my music and so on.

God forbid if I let the dogs out before I make his coffee. He will say I care more about them.
I have been told hundreds of times since I don't work he does NOT have to help me in any way.

After I had my daughter he made it clear he WOULD NOT GET up any night to help with her since he worked.

My husband has gone thru ssooooooo many jobs. We have been on unemployment at times. Since 1998 I sell at the flea market every sat. and do really good BUT he doesn't consider that a job at all

His hygeine is bad too! smokes like crazy.. My daughters doctor told me to tell him the smoke was bad for my kids and to smoke outside..He sure didn't

I very sad today..What am I going to do??? I am SCARED.

Wow,, now I see how how other women are! they will steal your man...without even meeting them!!! Boy is she in for a nasty suprise thinking he is her prince charming...Good for them they deserve each other

FIRST OF ALL WHERE IS YOUR RSPECT AND SELF CONFIDENCE, YOU CAN LIVE WITHOUT THIS MAN,DESPITE THE FACT THAT HE IS THE BREADWINNER.IT JUST UPSETS ME TO SEE WOMEN TAKING SUCH DISGUSTING TREATMENT FROM MEN.MOVE OUT,YOU AND YOUR KIDS,DUMP THE LOSER,TRY TO GET HELP FROM GOVERNMENT AGENCIES,IF YOU HAVE DIFICULTY FINDING WORK. MY MOM WALKED OUT ON MY DAD ,HE WAS LEFT TO CARE FOR FOUR KIDS BY HIMSELF,WITH A LOW PAYING JOB,YET STILL HE MADE IT. YOUR LIFE SEEMS TO BE LIVING SORRY AND SAD TO SAY,BUT YOU NEED TO PUT YOUR FEET DOWN AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT LADY.OTHERWISE YOU WILL NOT LIVE A HAPPY LIFE,{SOO MUCH MORE TOO SAY BUT SOO LITLE TIME.}