My update

**indecisive** · 02-16-2007, 06:29 PM

A few of you have been giving me advice and I haven't written in awhile so I just thought I would give an update and say thanks for the advice. I am in the process of divorcing my husband and my best friend and I are closer than ever. He has been so great putting up with my ups and downs because I have been such a mess. This was the hardest decision I have ever had to make. Kaylar was right that men never change. My husband still has not made any changes even after the scare of divorce. It is really sad because we have been together for 15 years and we have a 6 year old that has to go through this pain also. My son is handling it really well and it is going to take some healing time for all of us. It is too bad that my husband couldn't make the changes to make me happy and keep our family together. I feel very fortunate to have my best friend who loves me and I think that I could have a future with him but that is also going to take time because I don't think I should rush into anything since I feel like I need to heal first before I start a new relationship. Well I just wanted to thank everyone who responded to all of my previous threads because I don't think I could have made the right decision without you, I would probably be back with my husband right now and miserable.

02-16-2007, 06:41 PM

You are very welcome, and very right in taking time.

Your child will heal quicker than you will.
People do not realise how sharp children are.

They want to be out of the misery. They want
life to make sense. And they are very adaptable.

Take you time, let the relationship between you
and your best friend grow.

Don't be surprised if your child says, "Mom, why
don't you marry....?" with this attitude that suggests
you ought to have done so earlier.

02-16-2007, 06:29 PM	#1
indecisive VIP Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 62	My update A few of you have been giving me advice and I haven't written in awhile so I just thought I would give an update and say thanks for the advice. I am in the process of divorcing my husband and my best friend and I are closer than ever. He has been so great putting up with my ups and downs because I have been such a mess. This was the hardest decision I have ever had to make. Kaylar was right that men never change. My husband still has not made any changes even after the scare of divorce. It is really sad because we have been together for 15 years and we have a 6 year old that has to go through this pain also. My son is handling it really well and it is going to take some healing time for all of us. It is too bad that my husband couldn't make the changes to make me happy and keep our family together. I feel very fortunate to have my best friend who loves me and I think that I could have a future with him but that is also going to take time because I don't think I should rush into anything since I feel like I need to heal first before I start a new relationship. Well I just wanted to thank everyone who responded to all of my previous threads because I don't think I could have made the right decision without you, I would probably be back with my husband right now and miserable.

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02-16-2007, 06:41 PM	#2
kaylar Guest Posts: n/a	You are very welcome, and very right in taking time. Your child will heal quicker than you will. People do not realise how sharp children are. They want to be out of the misery. They want life to make sense. And they are very adaptable. Take you time, let the relationship between you and your best friend grow. Don't be surprised if your child says, "Mom, why don't you marry....?" with this attitude that suggests you ought to have done so earlier.