I cannot speak for your husband and his reasons, but I can empathize with you on the lack of remorse. My ex husband treated me and my son horribly. From the time we got married he would rage, cuss me out, threaten me with all kinds of things to have control, would let me go no where or do anything but he did what ever he wanted, just to come home and cuss me out some more. He was physically, and emotionally abusive the entire marriage. Anytime I tried to get any kind of remorse from him, he would get defensive and blame me, everything was my fault because I either didn't have sex with him enough, or wasn't supportive of how he felt enough. Still to this day I have tried to get him to show some kind of remorse for how he treated us and I get nothing. Probably never will, so I have slowly learned to stop kicking that dead horse. I will never get remorse from him, because he just isn't sorry, and just doesn't care. Sounds like your husband doesn't either. I'm sorry this is happening to you, and I hope you get through it a much better person. He doesn't deserve you.