Really angry!

**Airmans Sweetie** · 02-12-2010 09:01 PM

i am absolutely livid with aaron right now. i think is a collection of things.
i clean the house on my own & yes i do make a contribute to the mess but i pick up at least 50% after myself, aaron doesn't pick up ne of his mess! if he does it is because after he set it on the ground i had to scold him to get him to put, lets say his plate, his plate away. but instead of him putting it in the sink or in the dishwasher he walks in the kitchen & sets it on the counter where the food dries on it & i have to scrub the darn plate for 15 minutes to get it clean! i'm sick of him constantly leaving his cups that he drank chocolate milk out of sitting around, they r a pain to clean wen they dry. i'm sick of hearing "Sorry"! i have asked & asked & asked him to do this or that so many times, i have even said "it's ok just try next time to do it this way"! but no he doesn't do it he doesn't change it, so i started calling out wat he did like "u didn't rinse ur cup out". i got sick & tired of asking if he isn't going to try. so wen i do that all i get back is "Sorry....." & not even 2 hours later he does the same thing! I AM SICK OF SORRY!!!!! at least try not just apologize & not change! sorry means nothing if u don't back it!
i'm sick & tired of being the only one who cleans. he can make the mess but won't clean it! he doesn't even offer to help & even wen i ask him to help he doesn't. I JUST LOVE LOVE LOVE BEING A MAID!
i'm also pissed to cause we r painting my car this weekend, we were suppose to do it on saturday & our buddies r coming over to help. well aaron planned a whole bunch of other things like helping our buddy with his car & work on his own. me & our buddy were under the impression that we would have my car done by saturday night. aaron tells me otherwise wen he got home tonight, & claims he had told me several times that it wouldn't b done by saturday night. in which he didn't, & i wasn't the only one, our buddy was never told by aaron that it wouldn't b done by that time. i didn't have a problem with that, wat i have the problem with is that he told all our buddies it was my fault & that i told everyone that it would b done in one day! well gee thanks, blame me for u not telling me! glad to b ur scape goat!
i am so angry right now. he knows i am angry at him right now & he doesn't know y. but i'm not telling him right now cause if i talk to him right now about it, i will ring his neck b4 we finish talking. i might talk to him after this but ughhhhhhhhhh

**Airmans Sweetie** · 02-12-2010 11:25 PM

talked to him about it & he seems to understand that i'm tired of being a maid. but by his statement to our buddy not even 5 minutes ago he is still missing the point about this weekend. our buddy asked y i was made at him. & after talking to aaron about how it angered me that he blamed me for the whole thing, he told out buddy i was angry cause i was convinced that he didn't tell me that it would talk more than one day & that i was wrong! wtf! no that wasn't the problem. even in our talk i told him i don't ever recall him telling me that but that i have missed things b4 so maybe he did say it & i didn't hear him. he totally missed wat i told him ugh

**sperosi** · 02-13-2010 05:25 AM

communication isnt always easy, and a lot of the time it is extremely hard. try to remember, guys think differently. and no matter what the sex or gender, what is said isnt always what is heard.

**Texinator** · 02-13-2010 06:20 AM

Explain to him that you're also working hard, even if you're not going to a workplace outside your home each day from 9 to 5. It might be that on some level he thinks it is your 'job' to clean up after him because of you're being at home while he's off at work. Or he might just have sloppy tendencies that are next to impossible to break.

As for the car, maybe he just forgot himself or he wanted to make some other plans, but whatever went wrong there it sounds like he's having a hard time admitting it.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 02-13-2010 02:21 PM

He's such a boy isn't he

It may take longer than a day, but you need to explain to him that it's about sharing, you want him involved, not to be off doing his car at the same time, with other friends, you are a couple and equality is a good thing.

Dishes? Told you before, how can he break a habit that his Mother allowed him to do for years and years?

Don't go off, put them on his side of the bed

Everything.. And, smile. He'll have to move them then into the right place as he'll get sick of going to bed and having to move everything.

Even if he puts them on the floor and gets peeved, just say "honey" that's your stuff, so I'm just reminding you, you can put it in the dishwasher tomorrow but oh, I better warn you, you'll get sick of having to clean them for 15 minutes first before putting them in the dishwasher, as the food would have dried. You can smash them though and buy me a new set every week, love you and roll over and go to sleep...

**Sweetest Love** · 02-13-2010 06:39 PM

CW... you are hilarious...lol. Airman's wish, I actually had the same problem w/ my so. I actually had to talk to him about it at least 3 times before anything stuck. Now he understands that is is important and that it makes me happy for him to 1.) Help me out around the house, and 2) Take the initiative to do things that obviously need to be done. i.e: if the dishes are getting piled up and you aren't doing anything and I am... wash the dishes (or in his case, load up the dish washer and crank it up). I don't know how often you all have had the discussion, but it does seem to take time to stick with the men we love. You have to be persistent and as patient as possible...or go with C.W's suggestion and put everything in the bed....lol.