Thread: Is porn cheating?

try and talk to him again and say that you are in a marrige if you cant talk to me about this what can we talk about your huband should trust you

There is nothing wrong with you,
there is definitely something wrong with him.
watching porn is cheating in my opinion.
don't blame your look for his mistake.
you are perfect.
keep talking to him and that how much that hurts you,
if he thinks that you are not attractive any more
this is a serious problem,
you guys need either some profissional help or
you need to get out of this marriage.

appreciate yourself more.

well,I'm married as well and in my opinion this is just a stage for him and since men feel trapped after they got married this is the only way they have to feel themselves wild and very young again.
I've got a psychological tip you could try if you want, even you could have 2 different reactions from him )
first try this then if you want write me back)

• visit a porn web page when he is around and see his reaction
• tell him that you just wanna know him better day by day and since he's obviously really interested in porn you've decided to get into it more often to have one more thing to share with him.
• do it for a week and see his behavior and reaction

if he gets mad or angry it means that:

• it was a scream of freedom;very often men like doing things that their wives hate since it's a perfect way to have their own space, they don't feel good when they share everything with their wives because it's a way to lose freedom.
• they know that they are not the only ones who run his lives.

if he sits with you in order to surf on the net:

• means that he does wanna share different sex experience with YOU "his wife" and in that case you should try different things that you (obviously) approve .

regards from Chile
(sorry for the mistakes)

I hate to say it but I have looked through my fiance's email and found porn. I found myself getting angry about it. I don't really find anything wrong with him looking at porn, but I feel like he is doing it behind my back because he never mentioned it to me. I would like to ask him about it but I don't want him to know that I was snooping through his e-mail. I also would not mind watching it with him. Should I tell him that I know he watches it? And should I feel angry?

Yes , it is cheating and you need to let him know that . If he has no interested in you for 6 mns. thats bad . He stoled from you , the very thing that makes the marriage a marriage . Inatimcy is a gift only a husband and wife should ch er TOGETHER period ! End of digustion !
I am in a marriage of 32 years and I let it go on way to long . I finally had anough last Dec. We are still trying to work things out . But I have heard all the excuses that there are . He said I put on weight , my weight 125 , 5'2" , 41 / 25 / 37 . Not bad for a 50 year old ,two grown kids , rised on my own , he liked 2nd shift never home always working , plus a cancer survivor of 20 years .
I don't want it . I am too tired . Did he ever stop and think to ask why I don't want it ? No , he was only thinking of himself . I did not want it because I knew he was comparing me to them . Always thinking I wasn't good enough . Always wanting sex and never making love to me . Made me feel like a ***** . Please do yourself a favor and do something NOW . I would not want anyone going through what I did .
The reason they don't want to be with you is because of the porn . It takes alot away from the guys . You really should study up on porn addiction . It will help you understand alot better than I could explain . It will help you out emotional too. It is not your fault ! Please remember that ! If you do love him and he loves you the 2 of yous should be able to work through this and come out stronger . If he is not willing to give up the porn he isn't wroth your pain you will go through the rest of your life . You are wroth all the admiration respect and love because you are you period ! None of his BS should tell you different !!!!!!!!!

YES IT IS CHEATING. I have read that there are also men out there who believe it's cheating and yes he is comparing you to them. That is actually what an a** h#*! of a man once said on a mens forum I visited to learn more about why men watch porn. Some men claimed it was a release but most said they compared their wives to the porn stars. I'm sorry but you have to talk to him and tell him he needs to stop. my only concern is that he might continue doing it behind your back. I have the same problem. I told my husband he needs to stop. He said he doesn't do it any more but I think he still does it behind my back. I'm sorry men can be such jerks. I wish they were like us woman. I don't even consider looking at a different man let alone watching his naked body have sex while masturbating to it. You know men that masturbate when they are not watching porn have to visualize a something that's sexy to them, looking at another woman even on dvd and wanting to F#!* her is wrong. No matter what a man says, that is what he is desiring while watching porn.-It is disgusting.

Hi I am new at this but I need advice because I am lost. Ok here I go.

I have been engaged to my future husband for about two months and we have been together for about two years and I love him dearly more then anything in the world. But the problem is he loves porn and he always wants to hide it from me. I don't know why he wants to, I mean we are about to get married and why would he want to hide something from me I know that in relationships everyone has something to hide from the other person. But he loves porn I know for a fact he has stuff on his computer of all kinds of porn. Well this morning I came back from running and he was just satting there watching porn when he knows how I feel about it. To me that is cheating but to him it isn't. When I know that he does it, it makes me feel so bad about myself and makes me hurt inside and he acts like it is nothing big at all. I mean I have seen what he looks at and the women that he looks at looks so much better then me. Should I say something to him or what? I don't know and well I don't know what he feels about me any more.

What should I do.

you need to establish whether or not you can go the rest of your life with porn as the third wheel in your marriage. keep in mind that history teaches us that his use of porn will increase and can have dramatic impact on his sexual desire & performance - negative impact.

as much as you love him, you need to regard what you can & can't take - and not lightly. it's no more fair to him than it is to you for you to ignore the very real pain porn causes you & slip quietly into a marriage pretending that pain doesn't exist.

many divorce lawyers will tell you that porn is the number one wrecker of marriages.

decide your boundaries - then communicate them, matter-of-factly. you're not judging or nagging. you're simply highlighting facts for him. this is what you can take; this what you can't.