Thread: Pornography & Husband

From my experience, porn can really be a serious addiction in some situations. I don't know how frequently he admitted to looking at it but regardless, 7 years seems like a while. I agree with stressed about talking to him about what he prefers in porn that is lacking in your sex life. There might be a clear answer, and if there isn't I would say it would be a good idea for him to seek some couseling. Im not sure why you mentioned your not having a supporting income: is this something you would consider leaving him over? I agree that this can have a very serious negative impact on a realtionship (I have not been without problems with my s.o concerning porn) but I think you should definitely try to get him into counseling before giving up. My s.o has since come from an addiction to believing that much of the porn he was watching can be very degrating towards women and that it undermines our sex life and relationship as a whole. He has not looked at a bit of it since. I hope you can work through this together.

I would concentrate first on problems with your sex life, and porn second. Does he maybe feel inadequate as a lover because of limits from his bad back?

If he is avoiding sex because he prefers porn, that is one problem. If he is turning to porn because he feels unable to perform well at sex and avoids it, that is something different.

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

One because they don't get equal satisfaction in masturbation...

LOL.

Really HD?

You masturbate to get off. Masturbation in both sexes is about physical release. Period.

Not emotional attachment. Unless of course you are having a love affair with your hand or vibrator.

Stressed, I agree with your first reply. Well said.

I think intimacy and touch are as much of a need for a woman to reach a higher plateau of pleasure as VISUAL stimulation is for men.

Men can masturbate without porn, but many use it... because its more enjoyable. For a lot of women... visual stimulation doesn't increase sensations as much as tactile ones. But having some random person touch you is CHEATING, and watching some random person ISN'T.

I think a lot of women are dependent on sex with their so not only for the orgasm but the closeness.

Many men admit to not being as emotionally connected to sex as their so, which is why it seems like porn/sex is more interechangable than it is for women.

Just a thought

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

I think intimacy and touch are as much of a need for a woman to reach a higher plateau of pleasure as VISUAL stimulation is for men.

Men can masturbate without porn, but many use it... because its more enjoyable. For a lot of women... visual stimulation doesn't increase sensations as much as tactile ones. But having some random person touch you is CHEATING, and watching some random person ISN'T.

I think a lot of women are dependent on sex with their so not only for the orgasm but the closeness.

Many men admit to not being as emotionally connected to sex as their so, which is why it seems like porn/sex is more interechangable than it is for women.

Just a thought

I don't think so.

Women are just as able to reach orgasm solo as men are. In fact, judging from the posts here, i'd be willing to bet that on average women are MORE LIKELY to reach orgasm on their own than they would be with a partner.

Where's all that crucial emotion and intimacy now?

Different things arouse different people. Emotional attachment and physical intimacy are not factors when a man or woman is masturbating. Because there is no one there with them. They are solo.

The notion that men achieve more satisfaction out of masturbation is just so silly that I was surprised you mentioned it.

I think what you are getting at is that intimacy and emotional attachment may very well elevate a woman's mood. Which in turn may put her in a state where she would be able to achieve better sexual response. I agree with that. Not many people are as willing to masturbate when they are down in the dumps.