Thread: I know Im Not Naive but....

So my husband came home drunk about a month ago with a chicks number in his phone and I kept calling the number and calling and she never answered. Well a friend finally called the number and a girl speaking another language answered so I thought ok that was weird and laughed it off. Well here it is a month later and the girl calls and leaves him a message saying "Hi Hun give me a call soon" I mean what the h---. Of course he has no explanation and says he doesn't remember her and gives me a chance to make a perfect point, he doesn't know what he's doing when he's drunk. Now here I am 6 weeks from having my baby dealing with this , what am I supposed to do. I hate being 7000 miles away from my family and not knowing where things are going to be after she's born. I am trying my best to maintain and give him a chance to be a good father and change for the better, but man I tell you what THIS IS HARD!!!! He even let me listen to the message and he said if I had something to hide why would I play it for you????

Oh.. I love that one. If I had something to hide why would I show you, let you listen, blah blah blah. While he may or may not have something to hide him 'showing' you something after you 'find' it... is hardly proof of innocence, but... is hardly proof of guilt either.

If he comes home from work and spends all his time with you, while he could still be up to no good someway somehow... chances are he's probably not. Some guys will get a number with no intention of calling just because a woman offered it to them and they felt so flattered they didn't reject it even if they were not interested.

Its insulting because you know your man wouldn't want you to give your number to any guy that asks simply because you don't want to make the guy feel bad. He'd say to heck with that guys feelings don't give him your number.

But.. the thing I find odd is how if some random girl gave him her number... how she would then have his to call him further down the road. So there must have been an exchange of numbers at some point... and women... unless they are psychos don't usually call up a stranger leaving them a voicemail calling them 'hun'.

But again... none of that proves much... and your pregnant. Don't worry your head with circumstancial fluff as long as he is treating you well and giving you no reason to doubt his fidelity and commitment to you.

Women generally don't go digging looking for something unless they get the 'feeling'... come on ladies... we all know what I'm talking about... that 'feeling'. We are instinctive creatures by nature... we often ignore those instincts because we are tought to think with our mind and ignore our gut reactions. But sometimes we just get a feeling that something ain't right -- thats when the digging starts, and when you have the notion something is off and start poking around, you are more than likely going to find something.

I know some people will say if you look hard enough you'll find bad things on anyone. I say... generally most people don't dig until they have some kind of grounds to feel uneasy.

But if you trust and love your guy. Let this go, especially for now. It doesn't mean turn a blind eye to it... but just don't let yourself become stressed and worried with what may be nothing.