my husband cheated
I have been married for almost three years. We got married young, I was 18, he was 22. He was a cheater in his past, and I knew it, he had cheated on all his previous girlfriends, but not on me. We have a toddler also. I just found out that he slept with another woman a year ago. He lied to me about it for that entire year, because I had suspicions and asked him every couple of months. Then, I found out for sure and he told me it was only one time, but I had a feeling it was more. Yesterday, after me yelling at him for the truth, he told me it was three times and then he told her he still loved me and wanted nothing to do with her. Apparently, she told him she was going to ruin our family since he didn't want her. She tried, last year, but I believed his lies. He has lied so much, but I love him so much. I just dont know what to do, it's all so new and fresh and painful...and I think he may be lying still about how long it went on. I told him this was his last chance...but I am not sure I can even get over this. Help please
He has cheated on his other girlfriends. He married you and cheated again. He will probably cheat again, it has nothing to do with his age but with his personality. You love him and cheating can be dealt with, but CAN you live with a man who has cheating tendencies? He hasn't been loyal to a single woman, not even to the one he married. He has no reason to change, you are still there despite his cheating and he managed to get a way with it for a whole year. I am sure he tells you "but that was in the past, I won't do it again".
What was his excuse for the cheating? Did he love her or was he only attracted to her? What's stopping him from doing it again with a different woman? Do you think you can still go to bed with this man and have sex with him knowing that he's lied to you and he's been inside another woman? Can you handle the possibility that he might do it again? Do you think you can leave it behind and start building your relationship again from 0? Will you be able to trust him again? The answers to such questions will tell you whether you can stay with him or not.
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