Thread: Caught online...

I'd like to know what you mean by talking dirty.
I'll tell you why...
a friend and I were discussing someone else
and got kind of raunchy about him...to be honest...
now...
there's nothing at all sexual between me and my
friend, never was, never will be. I know his wife,
I know his baby, he knows my husband, he knows
my children...and I've known him for nearly twenty
years as well.

If my husband had seen the remarks we were passing
about this other person, tossing in a few personal
bits as spice, he might have felt 'SOMETHING IS
GOING ON!' when nothing was.

One might consider the discussion certainly X rated...
but it wasn't the kind of...I want to &^^* to your *(&^
for if that is what you saw, well, that is different.

And enough would be enough.

hello well if it was me I'd be pissed and he would hear about it the trust would be gone possible the relationship aswell. sorry to hear that hope this helps.
Pam

The question is would he be mad if you did the same thing?

Originally Posted by brkthmpsn

The question is would he be mad if you did the same thing?

yes very good ???
I think he would.

online chatting with the opposite sex is unacceptable for me
even if it was friendly conversation.
something will lead to another.
that is not a good sign ,
if there was nothing going on , why did not he tell you
that he was chatting with her,
why he had to hide from you??

I agree with housewife, but a with a caveat...
there are those one speaks with on line
who could be 19 or 99 and it has no import.
It is a friendly discussion.

The person could be female, male, a mix
of the two, it means nothing because the
discussion is the key issue.

As soon as it becomes genital talk then
the sex of the people moves to the fore
and unless it is a kind of advice situation...
then what is going on?

I have deep discussions with a number of
men on line and their wives could be sitting
next to them, or participating, because
there is nothing being discussed that she
could not be sitting in the same room.

So there is a line there.

Hello Kaylar,
I always read your comments,
I appreciate your trying to help other women by your wise advice.
Anyway, the line with chatting on line is
your spouse should be aware of the whole conversation,
if every word you wrote your husband had to read and he was fine with it,
that is surely acceptable.
but chatting with the opposite sex behind your spouse's back and
get involved with hot conversations, is definitely way beyond the line.
which is the case in this story.

Housewife, that is the key point.

'Hiding' has to provoke suspicions..
the thing I'm alert to, however is the
syntax.

For example, I sent a kid an under firewall
hack so he could get on a particular site
his school had banned.

"I Love You!" he sends back.

I emailed a set of instructions for a complicated
process to a colleague and he writes;

"I have no choice but to marry you, please
meet me at the Registrar's Office tomorrow at
nine a.m."

Now you have to view these responses in context.