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    on the charge it only said DFS/R&R oasis Las Vegas

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    On another thread they talk about why a women don't initiate it. Beleive me the last few weeks I have done everything and no luck. I have come to realize, I am done doing that.
    I feel so embarrassed and hurt.

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    To be honest, and obviously this is a completely different issue, but $3k is not all that much for the strip clubs here. Especially, depending on the club, there are some very high end strip clubs where $3k could be spent rather easily.
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    Last month after I found out about the strip club. He could not keep his hands off of me. We had sex 2 to 3 times a week and was always touching me.
    Devils Advocate.

    It seems to me that you "think" it's because of your breasts.. Yet, clearly when he went to a strip club, he was wanting it all the time and touching you.

    Could it be that "you" have been self conscious (rightly so), so would I have been, to the point whereby, maybe during that horrible trauma, you had to go through, you didn't want sex yourself then, very much and so he resigned to other ways, via porn, strip clubs, you closed off to a degree?

    I don't think it's because of breasts.. And, in addition, I would be gobsmacked if he was that calous and cruel as that is not supporting your wife, being there for you, if he can't understand how horrific an experience this was for you...

    Have you explained to him your pain, torture of self worth, feelings and the need for his support emotionally, his love?

    Maybe though as I said, your initiating it now, but felt low and down and and out during all that trauma that you weren't able to show him anything at that time.

    You two need to talk about what happened and what's happening and how you feel and he needs to understand this, support you and tell you that he loves you...

    This is wrong...

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    $3000 - maybe I'm out of touch, but that seems like really a lot for a strip club. I thought that bought you a really high end call girl for the night.

    Doesn't sound good.

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    As per last post I thought the same thing. And still do.
    Today I went to a counselor. It was harder then I expected it would be.
    Hearing the words come out of my mouth was hard, I broke down and cried.
    It is a step for ME....
    My trust shield is back up and I don't like it.

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