Thread: Wife cheating on me, why?

What makes you think she is having an affair? You said you haven't seen it with your own eyes... it doesn't sound like she told you she is having one --- what are the things that make you think she is cheating?

And to answer your other question, women cheat for as diverse reasons as men do.

Some of them being:

*Revenge: Knowing or even THINKING their significant other is having an affair can lead some women into another mans arms just to make a point that they can do it too. Or to try to feel better about what he's done.

*Lonliness: Whether the significant is physically distant (miles away) or emotionally distant (even sleeping in same bed) lonliness can push women, just like some men... into cheating

*To feel attractive: If a woman feels her guy doesn't pay her attention, and maybe even notices him paying attention to other women... she may flirt and then even cross the line with another man in order to feel that at least someone, if not their mate, finds them sexy.

*Sex: Yep, women cheat for that too... either not getting enough , or not getting the kind of sex they want, being with a selfish lover etc...

Those are just a few reasons some of my friends have cheated but there as many 'reasons' to cheat as their are people willing to do it.

There are plenty of women that would never cheat. Even if their husband did. Even if he made her feel unnatractive, even if he was distant. Its just not in their nature to do so.

And there are plenty of women that would cheat even if their man was mr. awesome and did everything under the sun to make her feel special.

Did you mean , "If I HADN'T seen it with my own eyes, I wouldn't believe she was cheating?" Meaning you saw her?

Has she hinted at anything she thinks is missing in her life?

It may be as simple as physical attraction, or much more complex. (doesn't excuse it in any case - but its important to know the reason).

Maybe - you could ask - let her know that you know, don't be hostile, just try to find out why. Then you can decide what you want to do about it.

I think there are a lot of reasons women seek comfort from others when they are with another. However this being said, if you are certain she is cheating on you the best thing would be confronting her. Tell her that you love her and that you are willing to go to any lengths to make this relationship work. I would also suggest counseling for the two of you. Maybe, and I am not saying there is, but maybe there are underlying factors that she needs to work out and couples therapy would be great. Remember that when you do talk to her about this she may get defensive and yell and be angry with you, but be strong. If you are willing to stay with her, forgive her in your heart, mind and soul, than time counseling and love will help you. It is hard and hurtful for you I know, but maybe there is something (that may not have to do with you) that hurts inside of her too and this is her only way of expressing it. I hope you two get the professional help your relationship needs, and I hope you find love and acceptance in whatever path your life leads you in.