Need help in understanding my husband's behavior
Hi ,
I have been married for around 5 years and now expecting a baby.
I had a love marriage and like in every marriage I found my husband very loving,caring and the best match for myself in the whole world.
Since getting married my husband started taking me granted for everything.
His English is poor so I had to write his correct his emails,fill his forms and help him wherever he needed with his office work.I am also a working woman.
Initially I did all this without cribbing but nowadays it has got too much annoying.Even if he comes home late in the night he has to write emails and I hav to correct them if he wants me too and if I dont we have fights.
Even if I do all this for him he never ever appreciates my efforts in any form,like taking him out or giving me a surprise never ever anything.He never agress with me for buying anything at one go.I feel I am just ignored and my life is dragging on with him.
My mom suggested me to come and stay with her for some days and see how he reacts.Now in his office his appraisal is going on and just yesterday we had a fight on filling up of the appraisal form.My mom is asking me to come to her place immediately now.My husband is not talking with me now.
I don't know how to deal with this situation.Wether to listen to my mom or talk to my husband.All these fights and crying is affecting my baby as now I am in my 3rd trimester of pregnancy.
Please suggest me what should I do
Welcome solseeker.
When did your husband change from, not caring and not being loving?
Is maybe he feeling financial pressure, of the baby from his job and your job and therefore, when he comes home and you have to help him with emails, it's because he is trying to make more money?
Sounds that way to me...
Never let your parents interfere... Problem is you tell them everything and they want to be there for you, but if you had a loving relationship, then marriage is important to work on it, together, not with outside influence.
Ask him if it's money, if he is worried, and tell him that as you are pregnant, you are emotional and he is making you sad.
Tell him you are proud of him and respect him and he needs to love you again, and respect you..
Tell him that you want only to talk to him not outside, to family if he knows, this....
He is not feeling like a man if he knows your family know what's going on.
I feel that you are both from a culture and if so, then he needs to feel like a man...
Always, always, talk first... never walk...
CW
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