Thread: I'm pregnant with twins and need help!

Depending on what state you live in there are common-law marriage laws. If you lived in the state I live in, technically you are married and entitled to 1/2 of everything. You would have to file an actual divorce and go through all of that, but it would be worth the trouble given your situation.

I agree that terminating the pregnancy is probably the best given the situation. When you go to the doctor, please ask them about resources available to get out of this mess. There are safe houses in every town for women in your situation. Please look into it, they are there to help. You need to get your boys out of that situation and get yourself out so you can focus on being a happy and healthy mother.

I also agree that you don't need a psych hospital. You're not crazy, you just need a positive support group. Please don't put this on yourself.

Look for a local safe space. Where I live it's called BRASS (Barren River Area Safe Space). They usually have websites, and a hotline. They are totally private, for instance I've lived here for years and still do not know where BRASS is, because they keep it totally private for a purpose. They often provide you not only a place to stay, but a donor cell phone so your bf can't track you. They also provide care for your children.

If I may ask, why are you on SSI? It sounds like you are drawing very little. Are you totally unable to work?



First - Find a safe space.

Second - Get out. He's GOING to hurt you, it's a matter of when, and how. Do not leave your children. He will portray that to the courts as you have abandoned them. If he no longer has you to abuse, he will likely begin abusing them.

Third - Let others help you. Safe spaces provide counselors. After a few days of being out of the home, then decide what to do about your current pregnancy. You love those babies already, your profile pic says so. Adoption is a wonderful option. Don't make a rash decision in the middle of such turmoil. Make clear informed decisions.

Fourth - With the help of those at the safe space, develop a plan. There are MANY options out there for single mothers.

Do not allow yourself to be a victim anymore. You came into the relationship with no assets, you leave the relationship with no assets. No loss. It's time to pick yourself up and make your own life, for you and for your children. It's time to take responsibility. If you terminate this pregnancy, or even if you don't, once you have them there's absolutely no reason not to get on some form of bc. With your income, you can get it for free. Step up...take control of YOUR life. There's no time better than now.