Thread: what do you say?

It depends on who you are. I was engaged for years before we tied the knot.... I'm like the "anti-girl" when it comes to wedding stuff.... I didn't want the big wedding thing - it just seemed like a waste of money for me.... but that's my thing. Everyone is different, and for some people, the big wedding is something that's very important. I mean, it is a huge committment, and hopefully the ONLY wedding that you'll have!

I was thrilled to get my wedding band though! I kind of love the bling on my finger, but didn't need to have some huge celebration for it.

I can never see myself having some big planned out wedding. But yeah, I'd like an engagement period. It's a good time for some decision making and to get everything out on the table if you haven't already.

the wedding can be such a sticky situation. Not only do you have to deal with whatever the two of you want (which is the most important part) but sometimes family can just become major buttinskies.... and try to steer you into something that you may not want.

Stick to your guns. There's nothing wrong with the JOP if that's what you want. At the end of the day, it's your marriage, your lives together, and your wedding.