L-O-V-E

**Hmmm<3** · 07-04-2010 10:59 AM

On a lighthearted note; since I think you should always give some good with the bad. Although I don't have a man myself at the moment im still curious to see what other people would say.

How do you know your in/have been in Love? Was it love at first sight? When did you realize you were? What did they do to make you know? Have you been in love more than once? Or did you think you were and then you found "the one"?

And whatever else you would like to add

**Hopeless Dork** · 07-04-2010 11:39 AM

The very first time I saw my boyfriend, before we ever even got to know each other... I found myself attracted to him. When I saw him my first reaction was "he's really cute". When he spoke to me my next reaction was "I like his voice" and as I heard the words he would say my next thought was "He's really sweet,"... then funny... then smart. I had a little crush, I think, before we ever even had our first date.

We were (and still are) so passionate early in our dating and I felt... "I'm into him". As things developed I realized "we get along real well". The more I got to know him the more I could feel that we just fit together perfectly. I'd look forward to spending time with him, and always had fun when I did.

I found that more and more he'd cross my mind when we were apart. I'd see something, hear something funny and couldn't wait to share it with him. And by that point... that crush turned into a really strong like.. something a lot like love... but not yet. I have a highly guarded heart and I didn't quite let go and run with the feelings immediatly.

He gave me the respect I'd always wanted from a man, made me feel so special and good that all those walls just lifted... and I knew, I loved him. After that I shared more of myself, became even more open and so did he. And it just grew, and grew. As time passes he just fills up more and more space in my heart.

And to answer your other question. No. I've never really felt love before. I've felt crushes, I've felt infactuation, I've felt passion... but I've never felt love in the pure form of just wanting the other person to be happy, to consider their needs above my own and to abandon all fear and just trust.

To me, love isn't some magical spell. Its conscious. We choose to love, we choose to open up our hearts and we allow ourselves to be loved. Finding someone that you deem worthy of your affections, some one you trust enough to appreciate, respect and give back those same affections is love. And when the stars allign just right... and you both mutually it. Its beautiful.