Thread: Emotional Affair...Advice please

Originally Posted by Depressedboy

Im gonna go by steps..

Me and my wife both Truly Love Each Other, our relationship is beautiful and fun like two little kids in love...everythings perfect...but recently...she met a guy who she felt could be her Soul Mate etc,

she was more Attracted to him than me etc..
they met, they were just friends i didnt mind, i trusted her...I trusted her Love for me,
one day the guy started Insisting to her to go out with him, she rejected him, she was strong but still
she was weak, inside her head she wanted to be with him...and have an Affair but she resisted the good thing is....nothing happened, she didnt have sex with him or anything...but the Thought and everything else...everything was there and we know thats considered cheating,
she flirted with him alot.


There conversations were "sometimes" steamy etc...
and ever since that day the Relationship between has somehow...lost its Happiness,
were still together and were Happy together like a Cute Love we do EVERYTHING together,
we have lots of fun and the Bond between us is sooo Strong and so Pure.

i dont know what she feels but my love for her is so True so Clean, so Caring,
So Sweet, she's My Angel and we want to get married and have a Family.

But ever since that...were both hurt...she hates herself, she feels depress cause of this Emotional Affair, but she sucks it in cause she knows if i see her Hurt ill be sad and upset...and she sucks it in..


Same goes for me...what happened, even if still she was'nt with him, the Emotional Affair has left me lifeless..and this scar wont let me be Happy...sometimes i have to Pretend to Smile and...
were still Virgins...we avoid intimacy cause for some reason we both know it will hurt us and it wont be magical...like we expected..

I Love Her and i know she Loves me..i want to be with her Always, i wanna protect her and help her..I kiss her Forhead everyday, i make her smile laugh, she does the same with me, were both sweet to each other...its True Love i know it is...

But it hurts me that...she has to hide her suffering...and i dont know what to do..i dont want to leave her...i dont want to...but sometimes i think that maybe if were just friend she will fall out of Love..and she'll meet someone and be Happy =")

Even if that means ill be...idk..problably dead idk..i cant imagine my life without her i refuse to be Happy without her and i really dont know what to do..we think Time will helps us..but time cant heal these things...she knows im hurt, but i care more about her than i do to myself.


Im lost..i wish we could go back in time and prevent this...but..i really dont know im sorry i keep repeating myself i just....i cant barely see the Computer screen from all my crying..

I need help...were both 23..i wish you could help me out...anyone...i dont know what to do..
yes...im still hurt cause of it...i know she is too...i dont want to see her hurt and suffering this in silence, i want to see her happy, please help...

And please dont just say Leave her because You have NO idea, how much I Love her, id die for her right now, and...i dont want to be without her, she is everything to me, all i need, im sorry, i keep repeating myself please help anyone.

Originally Posted by Depressedboy

First of all, im a guy and i know this is a Women only forum im Sooooo Sorry, but this is problably the ONLY place im sure i can get help and advice.

Please Help me out here...
Im 21 me and my love were still virgins, but its my fault not hers, i have a problem and im depressed over it. Just to make it clear im not small im around average around 7'5 etc, thats not the problem my concern here is...Her Pleasure.

True most guys dont care about the Pleasure of a women but I Truly do about mine, I love her to death and I want to make her feel like a Princess but heres the thing, from everything ive read, its really hard to give a women an Orgasm and im realllyy scared.


My girlfriend masturbates, ive seen her, using Vibrators, and also Humping Soft fabric, rubbing herself on Pillows etc, and it makes her wild now here the thing, I know Intercourse wont feel as good to her than it is to me but, will i ever be able to pleasure her like she does herself?


Im really depressed...i feel Un-wanted and...Un-Attractive, i want to be able to make her feel good, but right now the only thing that i think will make her feel good is if I put a Soft Fabric like a pillow on top of me while she rubs it, like masturbating, other than that i really dont know....


I feel so stupid for some reason but i really care about her and i want to make her feels good, but im not sure cause...i mean im not as Soft or Fluffy as A pillow or im not as Fast as A vibrator etc so..

I really dont know what to do...i feel like im worthless for her =(

im just depressed....and im starting to feel afraid..cause I know she can pleasure me but idk i can or can pleasure her more than the things she does etc..


I really need help most likely soon, well move in together and yeah something will happen...but im really..idk just Lost really i need you girls Help please, Serious Help.

Originally Posted by Depressedboy

Hewwo, Yeah thats my Baby Language lol XD anyway im new here Hi everyone! ^^

I came here to seek help i post a Question on Sex Forum thingy so i appreciate anyone to help me out other than that, im glad to be here, i was told by a friend to come here cause i needed help on somestuff etc..

So yeah hope you guys like me and dont kick me out XD jk
Anyways yeah thats pretty much it :P

Cya ! ^^
Btw im 20, i sound young but im not im just friendly ^^

Originally Posted by Depressedboy

Ok, i asked a question which really helped me out and thanks alot to those who did help me and now i sat down with my Love and talked and, basicly shes depressed and both of us need help, were both still virgins and our Relationship is sweet and Beautiful like Little Kids in Love =).


I dont masturbate much cause i control myself, my sex drive is very active, hers is too she masturbates alot using Vibrators and Rubbing herself on Soft fabric like Pilows etc, we both will stay Virgins till Mariage cause somehow we both think its right hehe.

So everything sounds perfect right now..the problem is were afraid that our Intimacy (sex) wont be what we expect...shes depressed cause she wants ME to pleasure her, cause she wants me to do everything to her etc, however all over the world, people say, Men arent able to Pleasure women like when they Use Vibrators, or cause Men arent as Soft as Pillows etc...

True our Love will make everything better but, whats bothering her is that i mean...nothing will ever be able to compare to the kind of Pleasure and Orgasm she has with herself (Vibrator,Rubbing etc)

So were both desperate...were depressed we cant sleep, were basicly going crazy, we dont even know if our Sex will be AS GOOD as the things she does so...


I really wanna help her i really hope i get some serious advice cause I Love her and she really needs it, i know i can pleasure her but yeah shes just Scared and Psyced about all this just like i am..


Please Help anyone =(

Depressedboy, not knowing what age you are is a real problem