Boyfriend in open relationship

**purlwise** · 08-23-2010 09:17 PM

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I'm going through something similar and I didn't think it really felt right. The differences are we've only been together 3.5 months and the only statement he's made different than the guy the OP is with was that he has never been satisfied sleeping with just one woman.

I, too, have difficulty reaching climax. The woman he's sleeping with outside the relationship (I agreed for fear of losing him; he essentially told me he was going to do it instead of having a discussion about it) orgasms easily with him.

I feel heartbroken. This relationship has real potential and that's the only part I don't like.

**sourpuss** · 08-23-2010 10:47 PM

Originally Posted by purlwise

I feel heartbroken. This relationship has real potential and that's the only part I don't like.

I'm sorry, but a relationship that is as one-sided as you just described does not have potential. Count your lucky stars that you've only invest 3.5 months and run the other direction as fast as you can and don't look back.

**LanaBear** · 08-24-2010 10:44 AM

Originally Posted by sourpuss

I'm sorry, but a relationship that is as one-sided as you just described does not have potential. Count your lucky stars that you've only invest 3.5 months and run the other direction as fast as you can and don't look back.

I completely agree with sp. You are only in it 3.5 months, with a guy who openly confessed that he has never been satisfied with just one woman. This is a recipe for a severely broken heart the longer it goes. It's time to leave, find someone who can love you and be happy with just you, you deserve that.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 08-24-2010 10:52 AM

Bad news blues......my dear. Get out of this while you can, disease free and with even a fraction of your dignity left.

Every day you're with him, you lose a little bit more of yourself. You lose a little bit more self esteem, a little more self worth, a little more dignity. And you lose out on the many men out there that would be happy with you, the way you are, alone.

You're not only traveling down the road to a broken heart, you're taking up residency in BrokenHeartsville. Get out.....and don't look back.

**WildChild** · 08-24-2010 11:01 AM

Open relationships only work if you are both being 'open'. Get out and spread yourself around a bit. Use protection with anyone and everyone (inc dental dams) and see what else is out there? He may find that 'open' working both ways isn't so interesting.
He's got his cake and the icing - go get yours.

**BasketCase** · 08-24-2010 11:01 AM

If your only allowing this behavior to hold on to him then it's not worth it. This is not a small issue. This has the potential to destroy your relationship and most importantly your self confidence. It's not hard to find a good man that doesn't require sex on the side. If a man can't deal with manoamy he shouldn't be in a relationship. Don't lower your standards for this guy. In fact don't lower them for any man.

**BasketCase** · 08-24-2010 11:07 AM

Originally Posted by purlwise

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I, too, have difficulty reaching climax. The woman he's sleeping with outside the relationship (I agreed for fear of losing him; he essentially told me he was going to do it instead of having a discussion about it) orgasms easily with him.

OMG he not only sleeps around but he comes home and makes you feel guilty for it??? Let this man go and run like in the other direction. If you are having difficulty coming to orgasm it's because he's not very good at sex! That's not your fault, it's his. Probably because he's to conserned about screwing as many women as he can to really think about the quality of sex. She prob fakes it.

**stressed** · 08-24-2010 02:29 PM

A one-sided open relationship where he talks to you about the sex he has outside the relationship.

You are unhappy and this is only going to get worse. Leave him. 3.5 months is not much. Take it as an experience.