do men find the mother of their child still attractive???

**heatherswar** · 08-30-2010 08:43 AM

So my fiance and I have been talking about pregnancy and having a baby. I am a little scared because I am aware of the changes that can occur, mentally and physically. My questions is after the pregnancy is all said and done, and you have a little baby....Will my husband to be still find me attractive or sexy??? I know it will take some work to get back in shape but does a man's view of the female body after giving birth gross them out, or cause a lack of physical attraction? This is one, of many, areas of concerns when it comes time to having a baby. I am just fearful that he will no longer find me attractive like he does now.

**pretzel** · 08-30-2010 08:44 AM

Trust me, you will be more beautiful.

**LanaBear** · 08-30-2010 10:18 AM

After labor, giving birth, and seeing what I went through, my husband thought I was the best thing that ever walked the planet. Still to this day, he thinks it was amazing. Any mature, loving, man will find you more beautiful than ever before because of what you went through and what you gave him.

**PandaPaws** · 08-30-2010 04:07 PM

Well, I'm not about to have kids anytime soon, if at all, but I fear the same as you do. Weird, I was thinking about this on my drive home from work today actually. I feel like I will need labioplasty, a breast lift, and a tummy tuck if I ever give birth to look the same as I do now...

**Mes T** · 08-30-2010 04:11 PM

Turn it around - if your MAN, the love of your life, gave birth and went through some changes, would you still find him attractive? I think the answer is clear.

**Little.Chuck** · 08-30-2010 04:19 PM

Originally Posted by PandaPaws

I feel like I will need labioplasty, a breast lift, and a tummy tuck if I ever give birth to look the same as I do now...

This is EXACTLY how I feel. Ive got it into my head that once Ive had kids Im going to be a wibbly, saggy, purple bellied monstrosity with lady lips that I could use as a sleeping bag.

**WildChild** · 08-30-2010 06:43 PM

Originally Posted by Little.Chuck

This is EXACTLY how I feel. Ive got it into my head that once Ive had kids Im going to be a wibbly, saggy, purple bellied monstrosity with lady lips that I could use as a sleeping bag.

LOL
Wrong.
Totally wrong

**ItsASecret** · 08-30-2010 06:49 PM

This is EXACTLY how I feel. Ive got it into my head that once Ive had kids Im going to be a wibbly, saggy, purple bellied monstrosity with lady lips that I could use as a sleeping bag.

Same here lol. And I certainly ain't a lady who is about to embrace the extra folds. Surgery is also my way out.

**Mes T** · 08-30-2010 06:51 PM

Wow, I'm a little shocked here.

I hope though that if you do try to go to extreme lengths to reshape your body that you do it for yourself, and not for what you think your man wants - because honestly I think men as a whole deserve a little more credit than that!

**WildChild** · 08-30-2010 07:07 PM

Well I'm not going to suggest we end this nonsense by having those of us who've had children post pics. I can assure you that I had two, completely naturally and my vulva is in fine shape, it've always had nice trim, as you put it, 'lady lips', and still do.
As for any other results, the shape of your belly, thighs, breasts and your body in general has far more to do with diet and exersize than it does with pregnancy and childbirth. I nursed my kids for over three years each. My breasts aren't as they were when I was 20 but at 53, I wouldn't expect them to be, children or not - still in pretty good shape though, all over. Childbirth has nothing to do with it - self care and good health does.