In love with Uncle, what to do?

**marci** · 10-07-2010 08:13 AM

I hate to say this but my aunt is maried of course to my uncle, but I love him very much and have for years, but in pictures he sticks his tongue out at me, I think he likes me but not sure, what can I do, I have a relationship, so it isn't bout that? Have you ever loved someone close but could do nothing? any advise?

**Lunar Keiki** · 10-07-2010 11:25 AM

Seriously? If I had romantic feelings about someone who was so obviously taboo, I would never put myself in the situation to let anything go beyond what it should be. I'm not sure how old you are, but maybe you are just crushing on him, or you see in him some characteristics you admire in a man. Either way, it is not worth the misery you will put your aunty through, not to mention your entire family as well as ultimately yourself. Is your Dad in your life? Could it be that you are looking for that father figure? Don't do anything that you will regret because (IMO) no man is worth the pain and misery of betraying family.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 10-07-2010 01:23 PM

How old are you?

I would say that regardless of what you feel for your uncle, it is never okay to act on that. He is not only a married man, but a man married to your own blood. I also assume he's quite a bit older than you and you're probably just having a bit of a fantasy. Acting on that would be the wrong thing to do without any doubt.

**KMonte85** · 10-07-2010 01:56 PM

my advice - do not *DO NOT* act on these feelings.

It sounds like a bit of infatuation... perhaps stemming from a close loving relationship you've had with him for years. It must not EVER be more than that.

To be honest, him sticking his tongue out at you is most likely innocent, probably doesn't at ALL mean anything more than family razzing. Even if he did share your feelings, by acting on this you will ruin your aunt's marriage, your family will be torn apart by your and uncle's actions, and you will have a dark shadow cast on you for probably the rest of your life. He can leave and never be thought of again.. you are a part of the family and are not so privileged.

**marci** · 10-14-2010 08:06 AM

I get so comfused bout things, like there ar times that I cannot "feel" my fiance inside me, is this normal? my dad passed away a few years back, an I am 40, can't help the way i feel, would not destroy family. I know I shouldt get married and my sister stated she read on a blogsite that Christ is to come bac k in 2011, my other sister says she is crazy, but i dont know bout that, she may be trying to scare me to marry, been married twice to a liar.

**WildChild** · 10-14-2010 08:12 AM

In what way would you being married or not affect or be affected by this blog predicting the return of christ next year?

**marci** · 10-14-2010 08:16 AM

My sister trying to scare me to marrige or could be real?

**marci** · 10-14-2010 08:17 AM

She said she got info from a topix at 37814, she is alwy bouncing around and getting that kind of stuff.

**KMonte85** · 10-14-2010 08:18 AM

if you're 40 and you know you shouldn't get married - then don't get married. Christ's resurrection or not, sister's opinion or not. You're an adult.

Same goes for whatever "feelings" you have for your uncle. You know this isn't right. Don't go there.

Sorry, this is a bit ridiculous...