Thread: Porn to Infidelity to Healing... How to deal with my parents and sisters

I am at a loss as to what to do with my parents and sisters.

Awhile back my husband had sex with another woman, because he wanted to live out a fantasy that he had from being addicted to porn. Both my husband and I are trying to heal by seeing counselors, journaling, reading help books, and being open and honest with each other. I am trying to heal myself first before seeing what is in the future for our marriage.

The problem is my parents and sisters all want me to divorce him right now and move my two young children across country to live by them, where they think I will heal better. They have told me that I have no self-worth if I stay with my husband. It is very difficult to hear their opinions of me and my marriage when all I need right now is just for them to listen.

I can't find any answers to how to deal with parents and siblings who push for a divorce when that isn't what I want. So I wanted to ask here if anyone has any advice for me on how to handle my family?

Thanks!

You need to tell them what you just told us. "All I need right now is just for them to listen." And if they can't do that, then they don't even get to listen. It's your relationship, your life, and your decision. While of course they only want the best for you, they can't possibly understand what you're going through, how you feel, or how your husband feels. If they can't support you while you are trying to see if this can be worked out, I just wouldn't talk about it to them. You don't want to lose your relationships with your family, but I would just keep that topic off limits for a while, until you decide what you want, whether it's to continue on with your husband, or to move on. Once you figure that out, you can make it clear what that decision is, and hopefully at that point they will support you no matter what the outcome is.

Best of luck to you and your husband! I hope you can work things out