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Reply With QuoteAw! That's pretty lame. I'm sorry. Is he always like that? Has he ever been sweet or romantic? Did you get him anything?
Married 20 years and nothing.......
Just need to get this off my chest. Our 20th anniversary was just recently and you know what I got from my husband????? A slug on the arm and a comment - " Seems like 50 years". Thats it, nothing else. Grrrrrrrr!!!! Thanks for listening everybody!!!!
Aw! That's pretty lame. I'm sorry. Is he always like that? Has he ever been sweet or romantic? Did you get him anything?
Sometimes men just DO NOT get women!
~Today, any person can fight the battles of one day It is only when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternity's- yesterday and tomorrow, that we break down. It is not the experience of today that drives people mad. It is the remorse of bitterness for something which happened yesterday and the dread of what tomorrow may bring.
Let us therefore, live but one day at a time.~
No....I didn't get him anything but did make him a nice supper. Things will never change unless I do something. I'm getting soooo tired trying to please him.
Stop giving then so he realises he has to give
We just get so stuck huh, try and try and get no where and then it seems to be taken advantage of..
Express to him your hurt he didn't buy you anything, or say happy anniversary, and mean it... Men don't get itWell some anyways....
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
Like everything in life that's hard to achieve
you must believe!
20 years....congrats...that's quite an accomplishment. It would've been nice for him to show some sort of appreciation or something. What gets into guys? Once on a 4 year anniversary, I cut out colored hearts and wrote something I loved about him on each heart and placed them throughout his apartment so he'd find them when he got home from work. I thought very hard about what I wrote on each one. And I attached different types of his favorite candies to each one. I was in college and didn't have money so a big gift wasn't possible. Anywho....not only did he NOT even mention what I'd done after he got home....... he stopped by the Dollar STore on his way to see me and bought me a pack of disposable razors and a plastic fish piggy bank. :\ I laugh about it now...but it didn't feel funny at the time.
The only man that doesn't "get it" that he should do something nice for his wife on any anniversary, much less a 20th, is a man who is choosing not to pay attention. Talking to him, and telling him how it made you feel is a good idea I think....long as you can do it without getting super upset.
"Be what you're looking for."
"The next time you're thinking of kicking someone when they're down, offer them your hand and help them back up instead."
Thanks for the comments everybody. It's over but it still hurts. After 20 years of talking I think I may just give up. There has to be something better out there and I am hoping I find it.
Sorry to hear that Theresa. I'm assuming there must be more going wrong with this marriage than just this one infraction?
"Be what you're looking for."
"The next time you're thinking of kicking someone when they're down, offer them your hand and help them back up instead."
Thanks for sharing your heart idea Disaster. We are broke and doing nothing for xmas, and our anniversary is the 24th.
Is there more going on? Have things been more buddy/buddy recently or have you both been preoccupied with your own jobs or kids or something?
Buddy/buddy for many many years. Now that the kids are older I am taking more time for myself and realizing I need more from a marriage. I am at fault also. I will be the first to admit it. It's just to late for change.
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