My husband left me 5 weeks ago and its shacking up with a new girl......

**astyles23** · 12-22-2010 12:54 PM

Im soooooooo Hurt Ive been knowing my husband since the 5th grade...I came home from work and all his things were gone including his flat screen tv...oh he broke my tv with his cell phone maybe two weeks before this.

But any how..I broke into his gmail account and found out he had went to see his ex girlfriend in tn. I was so hurt he told me nothing happend but i know it did. Then i told him i would move on i cant take it he says so what i have a new chick she is 23 years old and has a better body than yours. He told me if i keep texting him he will put his balls in her mouth and send me a pic. I cant believe he is playing his own wife like this..I still love him and dont understand why...Later he text my phone saying Move on ...ITs over ...What dont i get...I dont want you....We are getting a divorce.

Then he says that he is not cheating and he made all that up..cause i wont give him space. I know he is cheating he turns his phone off arond the same time every night....The way he talks to me i know its another woman..Not to mention he left his ex wife may 2010 the very next day he called me and we had sex while he was still married and i regret that now...But we stayed together from that day until we got married three months later when his divorce was final...He married me on Aug 17 of this year...and left me three months later with all the bills...

He actually treated me like he did his ex wife when we hooked up turned his phone off....well he changed the number on her...and filed for a divorce the same week we hooked up....Now what goes around comes around...cause im now in his ex wifes shoes and i will never do that again to a woman...until a divorce is final its just not right....i see how it feels now....and he doesnt care about my well being..he doesnt care what happens to me....i hate him so much...but i love him too..But why do i love a creep like this...he was so God fearing at first he just was a good man..well i wonder was it all just a act now.....i wonder was it bible game...i think im in love with the man i thought he was...i just want to be happy again...im so sad at work now ...im so confused...i feel so betrayed and lonely...his bday is dec 23rd tommorow christmas is coming...my life completely sucks...i was just on cloud 9...now i feel like my best friend just walked out on a life long commitment....

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 12-22-2010 01:31 PM

You know when you re-read this, again and again, your going to see clearer...

You were on cloud nine, mainly because it seems you honor the word marriage to a degree...but look at the whole picture, we all hurt when a relationship breaks up and get mad, angry, even glad that some of those events aren't occuring anymore.....

He cheated on his ex-wife with you, immediate Divorce and married you three months later, "leaving you with the bills", more than likely left her with theirs as well, more than likely has another women there, ready to do the same.

He threw a remote and broke your TV, then took the new one, your paying off right?

He has a temper, so I'd guess there was pushing and shoving going on as well...

He talks/ed down at you, your body...

Please don't blind yourself with "he was a good man"... in 6 months of being together, all you've experienced is anger, control, bad words , disrespect and been cheated on...

Choose carefully next time and be glad there weren't thousands and thousands of dollars worth of bills....

He only cares for himself..

Know your better off and make sure YOU enjoy Christmas or else he wins there too...

CW

**Hopeless Dork** · 12-22-2010 05:15 PM

There is just no greater window into a how a man will treat you than how he has treated the women before you. His ability to leave his wife due to falling for you, is a big red flag that should say... this guy doesn't value commitment, promises are worthless to this guy and he doesn't have the decency to end things with the wife first and then move on. I am not faulting you for falling in love... its just that when a guy shows you who he is as a man, believe those actions, more than any cuddly words they say because people don't change much. We all change every day, but our very essence, our nature...is generally there to stay.

I understand your hurt but like cw said be greatful you are learning now, 6 months in... and not 10 years and 3 kids down the road . You have a chance at a fresh start. You don't need to put your heart under a brick wall of protection... you just need to avoid men that are bad apples... there are so many good ones... just gotta know how to pick em'.

**LanaBear** · 12-22-2010 06:16 PM

Karma.... What goes around comes around. He will get his. Maybe not today or tomorrow, but it will come in time.

You learned a lesson, how much it sucks to be the wronged party. Like HD said, it should have been a big red flag. It was 6 short months in a very long life, be glad it was only that. Take what you learned, recover and move forward in a healthy relationship where you are cherished.

**Alexandra** · 12-26-2010 05:11 PM

Move on and forget him.

I mean that in the most caring way. This man is despicable. It takes a really horrid person to treat someone like that, and to put them through that much pain. You deserve so much better than him.