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    i have been going thru the same thing for about 4 years too. but i have confronted him. Nothing has helped. I know he loves me but i can not understand why he won't stop. This kills me. I do everything he wants. He is so spoiled. And for the record i am not an unatractive woman. Does he also have a masterbation problem? Mine constantly tells me he loves me but i just need to deal with it! This has totally destroyed my self esteem. I don't even know who i am anymore. I hate when he is off work & i am not. because you guessed it! Our sex life sucks because of this addiction.

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    I have been married for 3 years now and my husband watches porn i didnt really know that he watched it till a year after we got married and i caught him i am just wondering why some men feel the need to hide it from there wifes. I wouldnt have a problem with it so much if he wouldnt hide it . Plus i am 9mths pregnant and just knowing that he is watching porn makes me feel very undesirable. Should i be worried about him looking at porn? Its not like its all the time. And should i feel bad for sometimes spying on him?

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    you know dollface my husband does the same when i am not home either it kills me, because i know that he is at home watching a **** porn and he tells me he loves me too but i just need to grow up and let it be. I know that he loves me to we are fixing to have a child soon together its just him watching porn hurts me in some strange way it makes me feel like he would rather pleasure himself then to touch me. And not to sound full of myself either but i am good looking too. I do everything he wants i mean i cook i clean hell i spoil him with whatever he wants and desires.

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    I have been married for 10yrs as well. I have always had an extreme appetite for sex (and did not share that info with my husband). My husband seemed to have the same appetite. He used to own lots of playboy issues, then videos. He was showing me things I never knew... I never showed him how much of an appetite for sex I had, but lately, I can help but tell him I need and want more. And since I have somehow offended him, I secretely look at porn myself... I am not trying to hurt anyone, not want to cheat on him. But, I sure do think I need more sex and he is not receptive to what I have been asking for. Maybe, you should experiment with your husband.

    My sister's husband was caught with lots of porn and I know my sister hates having sex. Maybe the need should be filled before he looks for something else.

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    OK, THIS IS VERY DEDICATED TOPIC, my story is this, sometimes my curiosity takes me to watch porn but i don't do it too often, and i have watch porn with my husband. but what annoys me is that I constantly see that he look at other women on the internet and in the porno sites and that confuses me, because He had been a little polygamous in his past and I grow in a very traditional society and for that I am very insecure about these things, that is why it is kind of a problem for me. I have negative thoughs and doubt myself when he does it and he always said i feel bad i won't do it again and he keeps doing it. and I t makes me scared that maybe if i don't let him do it he will try to look for that satisfaction elsewhere, but i guess if he does is just because he doesn't deserve this relationship.

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    It's funny that I stumbled across this page this morning, as my husband and I had a huge row about his duplicitious porn watching just last night. I took our 9 month old daughter to see my mother for a few days, and came back early as he neglected to tell me that his mother's bday was tues. Anyways, I digress. When I went to flip on the TV to put a baby einstein video in for my daughter, SO THAT I COULD BAKE A CAKE FOR HIS MOM, the channel was on pay previw, a porn channel. We had discussed him not doing this, as it makes me feel horrible, undesirable, ect.
    He promised that he would never do it again. I called the cable co. today and they said that he had purchased eleven porn programs since our last discussion. It wouldn't bother me so much if he would at least have sex with me.
    He works construction and always claims to be tired, that he loves and desires me but that he is whipped and that we will do it on the weekend, which rarely happens. I am ten yrs his jr, and certainly still attractive, despite the last ten lbs I am having a hard time losing because of the baby. It is really starting to effect the way that I feel about myself, my marriage, and my husband as a person. Am I being too neurotic?

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    Oh I can really relate on this.. me and my hubby are not yet 1 yr in our married life..I caught him watching porn and spending money just to watch that girls in webcam and its really hurting me. He said he will not do it again but still I saw in his history that he's doing it again... what to do? sigh...

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    well you know i had a talk with my husband about how i felt about him watching porn. I felt that it was better to talk with him about it then arguee with him about it because i figured the more we argueed about it or the more i told him i knew he was doing it . He would end up doing it more. I told him as long as we still have sex and there is no web cam viewing or chatting that i am fine with it. It is a little experiment i decided to try we will see if it works so far so good. I think the reason we have not had sex this week is because i am due any day now and i am extremly misarable.

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    I've been married for 14 years and watched porn with my husband in the first few years of our marriage. I am still aroused by images but choose not to watch, though my husband still watches. Neither of us have ever been unfaithful. If it does not harm your marriage, dont sweat it.

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    statistics actually show that a large percentage of women watch porn as well. and well, i've watched it and the last time i checked...i'm female. a bunch of my guy friends watch it too, i'm sure. they don't advertise it, but i'm not naive. and a lot of girl friends of mine have told me they watched it - not as like a confessional or anything, but more so just in conversations regarding sex and society etc. so i kind of get tired (no offense) of certain women who are perhaps a little more sheltered than others running around claiming that all men are pigs simply because they all look at porn. our half of the gender population isn't so "innocent" and really...watching porn (in my opinion) isn't a big deal. of course i tend to be a little more liberal, so that's why i have that opinion. when it starts getting into obscure things like child pornography or beastiality or the like....well then yeah....it's not even "porn" anymore...it's basically twisted, sometimes criminal, erotica on film.

    but two adults having consentual sex - even if the dialogue is cheesy, the boobs are fake, and the costumes are lame - is pretty much what everyone our age does behind closed doors anyway...so...it's not really anything all that bad.

    and yeah...a lot of women watch it.

    and so do men...not just those who happen to be husbands.

    sex gets boring after awhile for some people. no matter which way you slice it, sometimes the mind grows idle and the act becomes routine.

    masturbation has always been (according to most research that i've ever read about) the one and only way to achieve the ideal orgasm. and well...some people look at porn to do that.

    case closed.

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