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    seriously are there any older women that know why??? i am coming up on 4 years of marriage and this has always come up...it isn't an obsession but it is semi regular i know because i spy....i know it is wrong but i would rather know and shut up then not know and pretend it is all good..... why do they need to look at other women? what purpose does it serve? i am so frustrated??? UUUGGGG!!!!!!!!!! ok i feel a little better but really why? what need does it fill that i can't??

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    if he loves you and you show him you love him back, just by saying i love you, or kissing him or holding him, then he should have everything in the world he wants in one package, YOU

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    Default Porn is cheating

    Any guy who looks at porn on a regular basis is cheating on you in my opinion. It's one thing if he buys an occasional Playboy - quite another if he looks at graphic porn that degrades women.

    My soon-to-be-ex husband has a particularly bad porn habit. I didn't realize this when I married him because I rarely saw him on his computer when we were engaged. However, once we got married and I had the opportunity to be with him more often, I sometimes checked the "history" on the computer and was disgusted with the sites he visited. I told him to stop looking at porn - he agreed - but he would always go back. These porn sites were just horrible. They showed women in very explicit and degrading positions. After I kicked him out (once I found he was having an affair) I also found several CD-Roms that he had downloaded. They contained the most disgusting images you can imagine - there was one that was labeled "Menstruation" and it had a woman having sex while she was menstrating! GROSS. Who in the heck could get off on something like that?

    If he looks at porn on a regular basis, it probably won't be long until he's looking at someone else and having an affair. Tell him to get some counseling for his "problem" or dump his sick ***.

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    I think alot of women misunderstand men and their reasoning for watching porn. Men don't watch porn because they like the other women or men in the movie, they don't watch it because they aren't getting enough from you, they are watching it to get off. Simple as that. While excessive watching may cause problems, occasional shouldn't be a big deal. We as women are turned on in different ways. Men are visual. Women are more emotional. They are simply trying to relieve themselves.

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    Default Porn has evil roots.

    THe reason women hate porn is because it's all geared to men's fantasies and those are sometimes so far from anything you would ever do in real life that we just find it repulsive. But what matters is that YOU don't like it, if you don't like it and express to your porn watching husband how you feel, that should be enough to make him stop out of respect. But you see the reason he (they) don't stop, is because some men become so disillusioned as to what REAL LIFE people are. The women in those videos/pictures ALWAYS seem to be looking right at them that at some point their brain bucket cracks and they really believe that these women are doing all this for them! They become so lost that you telling him how you feel is like a squirrel chatter in the background: He don't hear you, don't see you; as far are he's concerned you're only a wall, the intermission, between him and the pleasure for the old penis, which I bet, he reffers to as a "he"...LMAO that always cracked me up...it's YOU, your penis is a part of YOU...I'M hard', not "he's hard"...sheesh

    Anyway, personally, I think men (and some sick women) involved in pornography are all lazy, useless asses who have no positive baring on our society. They are the scum of the world, some so sick that they force children into their disgusting world of "pleasure". THey have psychopathic tendencies as they do not care whom they hurt. I've known people involved in the sex "industry" and they were all abused as kids...sex, they have learned, is a TOOL, not an amazing way to connect with your trusted partner. So, my guess is that 95% of the women involved in the sex industry is where all the sexually abused children end up "working". See, most people don't view pornography this way. I actually had my exboyfriend tell me that the women in the "movies" were "actresses". I actually laughed at this: JUST HOW DELUSIONAL DO MEN BECOME? THE STUPID EXCUSES THEY COME UP WITH TO JUSTIFY THIS SICKNESS?
    I've watched porn when I was younger, and the women in the movies all had that worn, used look.. it really made me think about what's behind the cameras...or who, or if there's any weapons pointed...and then, why the hell is she doing this and why the hell am I watching????
    MEN WHO BUY PORN ARE JOHNS!

    And LilSarah, just how little are you? ANd you say with so much certainty that you know why men do the things that they do? "...trying to relieve themselves"??? SHEESH, who brainwashed you? Trust me, men who LOVE porn are bad men, who will never be faithful as they consider the porn "stars" LOL as "his girls"! So when you think he's making love to you, he's actually doing them...and thinking about what they were doing and to whom in the videos.
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    i am a very open wife, i am my husbands 1st and only partner and these days thats rare to find. so it doesnt bother me when he looks at other women but i am also looking, not because i am a pervert or anything, i had considered converting to being a lesbian when al men disgusted me but then i found my husband and he change my perseption on men but my perseption on women never changed. women are very sexy and i guess when it comes to it if we are watching a porn together i wold rather be wathcing one with more women in it because i dont have an interest in looking at other mens parts. when i do look most of the time i just laugh at how insaily huge they are when no one is built like that. some time we watch porn for entertainment and also we have learned a lot from porn. New move and positions and it helps us open up on how we feel.
    Now i am not going to be one of those wifes who let there husband sleep with other women but if wants to look and i am with him it doesnt bother me. now if he isnt with me i dont want to hear about it. i know that doesnt answer you question but maybe it gave you some ideas on opening up your sexual relationship with your husband. cause everybody hase sex and we all just want it to feel good,but we also need to feel conected with our partner.

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    I have been married for 10 years and my husband watches porn. It is not that big of a deal sometimes we watch it together and some times we make our own. It just for fun and to make our sex life more exciting. I know my husband loves me and I trust him fully, so I guess that is why I'm not so worried about it.

    All this talk about how evil it is and child abuse is just crazy. I am sure these thing happen but come on your getting carried away.

    You husband sounds like the average man to me. You should not get upset over him wanting to get some pleasure without the work. Than when he is with you he can focus more on your needs and pleasuring you. Have you tried making your own videos, if you don't want him to look at other girls? I have made videos before without my husband and than stick a little bow on it and leave it some where he will find it. That will really get him off. lol

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    oh okay, people who make porn are all good people, with good intentions...and part of the good side of society
    LMAO

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    Just think about, most of you guys are religious and probably have read the first part of the bible. Why was woman made? For man right? We are made to look at and play with LOL! Men just love to look at the women why do you think we are beautiful, and so on. Thats what is it for. Guys like porn because they can watch. We dont see if that way because we arent there to look we are there to love. Men give love for sex and women give sex for love. Its a win win situation. Ha!

    I watch porn...LOL I dont think you should be jealous. Those people are like ten million miles away. And I doubt the guy is looking into that person for personal meanings just the sex organs. Its mainly the thought of watching someone else have sex. Very odd for a mamal to do haha!

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    Oh my gosh, what a quandry for me. I've worked in the adult industry and I've also decided my x husband was using porn too much. I guess the operative word is too much, and obsessively(If I were unavailable or out of town and he looked at some on a weekend, etc it would have been tolerable, but mine admitted to using it for many, many hours at a shot during unemployed times-while I was at work, and in his case he used lots of things in an addictive manner, food, anger, alcohol). Thus he's my x now. I don't respect men whom come into live places to see women if they have rings on their fingers unless they maybe are with a batchelor party.
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