Am I just being a jerk here?!?

**Laraling** · 01-27-2011 06:04 PM

OK so here's the story. I am currently 35 weeks pregnant. My husband has had no interest in touching me "below the belt" for a good two months now but I do give him oral sex at least five times a week. I kind of like it and I understand he needs it. At first I felt bad about him not wanting to be intimate with me but from what I gather, a lot of men feel this way about their pregnant wives. The issue is this: Even though I give him almost nightly BJ's (while he is watching porn at the same time mind you) I keep finding him masturbating, which he knows steams the out of me. Last night he got his BJ...This morning I walk in on him beating off in the bathroom! It pisses me off! Same thing like three nights ago...3:30 in the morning and he's jerking to online porn.
Now here's the thing...He knows it pisses me off. Why am I doing this for him, getting totally sexually frustrated myself, when he just "takes matters into his own hands" so to speak anyways? I don't want him climaxing to these skanks without me there and he knows it. It's stupid I know but I'm a cool wife to be giving him nightly BJ's while he watches porn (all while being 8 months pregnant) in the first place...So what are your thoughts? I feel weird talking to my girlfriends about this!

**caterpillar79** · 01-27-2011 06:39 PM

How about stop doing BJ's for him after a heart - to -heart talk once and for all?

**rcoreyus** · 01-27-2011 10:45 PM

Some men are really disturbed by the thought of sex with a pregnant woman - its almost like a phobia, difficult to control. Maybe something about having sex so close to a child. Is he able to talk about how he feels?

Maybe it is best just to please him until the baby comes, and then (once you are getting sleep again), life will be back to normal?

**Colorado** · 01-27-2011 10:54 PM

I'm sure there are those who have that stigma associated with pregnant women... personally I feel they are more sexy than ever then. I don't know why, but I just think they are more radiant and beautiful.
Anyhow, in either case, to be off taking things into his own hands while he KNOWS you don't like it and need the personal touch, is just wrong and selfish.

Sure its not an addiction?

**jns** · 01-27-2011 11:01 PM

I am like Colorado in that I find a pregnant woman even more sexy than one who is not. Your husband is missing out.

**Seeker_Advice** · 01-28-2011 04:37 AM

I also tend to agree with Colorado on two of his points; pregnant women and thier glow during pregnancy is amazing and, your man is being totally selfish.

What's good for the goose is good for the gander. So I'd abstain from providing him pleasure until he provides it for you. What's it going to do, drive him to porn? He's already there.....way too much (IMO)....so does it really make any difference. It appears that he doesn't get much from your BJs anyway, since he goes onto porn, so why do them?

Love making, intimacy, sex is a two way street. It's time that he started to do his part to bring you intimate pleasures again.

Let us know when your baby arrives.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 01-28-2011 05:32 AM

You are a woman in understanding....except it is usually a pregnant woman whom doesn't want sex and he misses out completely. Yet here you are ensuring he orgasms and here he is further materbating but really it's porn..

Do you really know when he started watching it, think back, about your sex life before you became pregnant because if that was great, then it has started over stigma and he's neglecting your communication to him, giving...

I am sure he gets alot from your bj's but he wants the sexuality of a non pregnant woman, he sees pregnant, maybe his mates say you get nothing maybe he doesn't see the bj's as an alternative, maybe he needs sex, you can still have sex you know...I'm guessing your not giving him that intimacy....only bj's....

You need to evaluate that...If your only giving him 5 days bjs and no sex, he's missing what he had...intimacy with sex, not a sexual act only.

CW

**pretzel** · 01-28-2011 07:14 AM

Can't add anything else, but add me to the list of guys like rc, Colorado, jsn, seeker, etc.

There is nothing more beautiful than the woman you love pregnant with your child.

**imirritated** · 01-28-2011 11:43 AM

Maybe he doesn't want to ask you for multiple blow jobs in the same day? He may feel bad asking you to do that several times a day, so he figures he is saving you frustration by doing it himself.