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    My husband's brother and I dated for about a year. Then we ended up breaking up because he moved. Then I hooked up with the man who is his brother (I did not know, they have different last names) I found out they were brothers months after I got into a relationship with the man who is my husband. We then decided to get married but when his brother returned back I realized my feelings for him still exist. I have fought my feelings for months. My husband is currently in California finishing up medical school so his brother has been on my mind. He only lives next door because they rented homes next to each other. My husband will be gone until like September and I really can't handle it anymore.

    And I couldn't fight my feelings any longer because he came over to paint the walls for my husband who had asked him to. Well I was cooking dinner and he had not ate. So I told him he could eat dinner then leave. I made steak and he went run next door and bought champagne. It was so romantic and I confessed my feelings to him. He just told me has always felt that way. He said he did not want to hurt his brother and I agreed. He said he'd leave but when he was walking out the door I was crying. He came back to hug me and told me it's okay. I stopped crying and went take a shower. He said he would see himself out. But he never left he came upstairs and kissed me. I kissed him back and he made sweet, passionate love to me. We stayed up in bed talking the entire tonight. I fell asleep in his arms. I was in love with him before and still am.

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    What are the chances, of 1) you going out with both brothers, marrying one that you didn't love and 2) them having different names, and you not realising they were brothers and 3) them living next door to each other, with husband going away and asking your brother to enter your house whilst away...

    Can I ask, ..... Did you tell your now husband before you married?
    How old are you both.

    Why did you get married.

    In marriage there is trust, if he knew,then he either trusted you or his brother, both proving him wrong...

    I'm having trouble connecting this, look forward to your reply...

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    The man I am married to now - I dated his brother for about a year, we broke up because he moved. At that time they did not live next door but they eventually did move to rent homes right next to each other. They have different last names because they do not have the same father.

    Yes, my husband knows that we dated. But he does not know that I did fall in love with him but over time I came to love my husband too. I happen to love both of them but I have this deep attraction for my brother-in-law as I did before he moved. He said we would never see each other again so I moved on but when he came back all those feelings came right back.

    I did not ask him to enter. He is redoing our walls for us, he had not ate so I offered him to eat but I did not plan to have sex with him. I have fought my feelings for months now. My husband does trust me but like I said I never told him how I deeply I felt for his brother. I just gave into temptation and I wish I could take it back so bad.
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    It takes two to tango and your BIL was also a participant. Is it going to be left by both of you as a one time thing for old times? What are your thoughts about telling your husband?
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    I'd personally say this, you didn't tell your husband about your feelings for his brother, only that you dated and I understand why, and you say over time you fell in love with your husband, but you cheated on him, with a family member..

    Love is a grand word, I think because you didn't have closure with the brother, naturally they came back, the feelings.. But I think your husband's brother, went with lust. And betrayed his Brother.

    Can you keep this secret, locked in a closet for the rest of your life and live with it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by CHANDLERS WISH View Post
    What are the chances, of 1) you going out with both brothers, marrying one that you didn't love and 2) them having different names, and you not realising they were brothers and 3) them living next door to each other, with husband going away and asking your brother to enter your house whilst away...

    ............................
    I'm having trouble connecting this, look forward to your reply...

    CW

    CW I think your initial impression was correct and that this post is a wind-up.
    Too many huge coincidences.

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