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That is unfortunate that he doesn't care to pleasure you orally... I can relate. This would be easier to say if you weren't already married, but if he has a problem with giving you oral now, it is unlikely to change. The only thing I can say is, try to have calm discussion with him about it, not being critical of him in any way or making him feel bad, just bring it up in a non-accusatory manner. Let him know how important it is to you, why you like it, and how it makes you feel. Another approach would be to tell him that him giving you oral will make you want him more, and will make you want to give him more pleasure and fulfill his desires. One other thing, and I'm not a fan of this but as a last resort, you can withhold BJ's from him until he's willing to reciprocate. But of course oral sex is much better from someone who actually wants to do it and is enthusiastic about pleasuring you, but if all else fails you can try it and see if you get results.

I don't think it's fair to say oral should be a requirement without giving it more thought when there are cases of one person highly disliking the other's taste or smell down there. Personally with all the goo there I'd find going down on a woman as disgusting as rimming without a dental dam. Even on a guy I'll only do it soon after they've taken a shower or there's that stale sweat taste and smell. My husband has also had past partners with BV or poor hygiene that made him hesistant until he found I keep things more trimmed and clean. Even though he likes doing oral I've noticed he still won't do it if I haven't shaved recently. You might want to take such things in to account and try to get a better idea why he hasn't done it. Then see if you can work out a way to improve it. Maybe you need to trim more, use dental dams to block the taste, apply something tastier to the area, or just ask right after a shower. There are lots of things he may not have thought of or didn't feel comfortable bringing up. Avoidance is easier than discussing something potentially sensitive like saying you don't like your partner's taste.

This is just my opinion, but I don't see how anyone could find anybody's arousal juices disgusting. For a man, the natural smell and taste of the woman he loves is an aphrodisiac and a source of pleasure and excitement for him (or at least it should be). As long as she has good hygiene and there are no infections going on, there shouldn't be an issue. If anybody finds anything about their partner's genitals gross, then they are the one with the problem.