Thread: Cheating Husband

Originally Posted by postivegurl

it takes more courage to leave then to stay

That is definately true, well said.

Yea I have been there myself, quite recently actually. It is certainly a long tough road of denial, anger. low self-esteem, ego knocks and a right old mental battering....
"How can someone you love and trust so much do that to you?".......
"We were so special"..........
"There must be another answer to them cheating".......
"They will change, this time it will be better"........
"I love you sooooo much"....... And so forth.

I have a rule of thumb in life; If I make a mistake once, not twice. You learn everything you can the first time you do it and never falter twice, life is too short for this type of silly behaviour. Have the self belief to know who you are and what you are worth and take from life exactly that and nothing less....

Don't look onto others so much as you will miss all the heavenly glory within.

i myself was in a very verbal abusive and at times physically abusive relationship, i was engaged actually. i was with him for 4 years..age 16-21. i wasted my entire youth with that piece of poop. i was never able to see the relationship for what it was...everyone hated him, including my family and friends. a lot of it had to do with maturity. i was so insecure with myself, and he didnt help matters. he always told me i was so ugly and fat and i was worthless and that no man would ever want me. and i started to believe him...i took the abuse for years, then i finally grew up, overnight...i had a major apiphany and left him. i never saw that piece of cry so hard and get on his knees and beg for me to stay. he had soo many insecurities and mental issues..i was stupid and we got matching tattoos and bank accounts together, co-signed on loans, so in a way i felt stuck, like i couldnt leave.. until that night i saw the light, if married people with homes and children could get a divorce, so could i! i was lucky enough that we did not marry, so i consider myself lucky im so happy that im out of that relationship, it did at one point have its good times, like every relationship does. and i try to only remember those. but like you, i swore i would never tolerate anything of that sort ever again, i was better than that. and i have the proof today, i have the most magnificent loving fiance i could ever dream of, i couldnt ask for a better man!