Thread: Cheating.

Hello scsmiddy, welcome to WH.

First thing's first, you mention the other girl as Shelia? If that is her real name, could you remember not to use anyone's real information for data protection and confidentiality.

he hadnt really spoke to her until he got down there

What makes you so sure about that? It sounds to me as if they would have spoke before to know that they would be meeting up there, no?

When i confronted him he didnt denie doing it he said he didnt want to tell me because it was a mistake

A bigger mistake is for him not to tell you through love and trust. He may never have told you about it if you did not find out, so in future if he does anything else would he be man enough to tell you? A loving relationship is built on trust and if he made a honest mistake, he should have told you as soon as possible.

and he dosnt like seeing me upset

"chatting up" other chicks

Well that doesn't make sense does it? He doesn't like seeing you upset but chats up other women to make himself feel good.....but WAIT, it gets better!

he said he does it for a ego boost because i dont make him feel good about himself anymore

AND THEN he blames you for the result of him chatting up other women!?!!!!?!!!!

That is my opinion and he needs to grow up if he wants to set a good example to his newly born. Going out getting wasted, hiding things behind his partners back and talking openly to women he has kissed with as if it's nothing is OVERCROSSING THE LINE!

You cannot trust the guy if he is not going to clean up his act. You need to be firmer in what you are willing to tolerate and groundrules will have to be in place. Stop letting him walk all over you. Counselling will only help if both parties genuinely want the help or it is as you say naiveity.