Thread: My own issues in a marriage

Originally Posted by lifeadventure

I agree that yes, his comments were insensitive, but I believe he feels comfortable enough with me to tell me the truth, even if it hurts.

B.S. Period! It is a form of abuse, trying to break you down. There is no reason to be saying these things to you. It serves no positive purpose.

Originally Posted by lifeadventure

Also, I asked him once if he'd always love me and always find me attractive. Ha! I shouldn't have asked this, because I got the truth. He said, "I love you now, and I may or may not always find you attractive." So, I believe that added to me feeling insecure about our relationship, and even though I'm only 30, makes me worry more about aging.

An answer like that is rough. I'm sorry, but that is cruel. It sounds like he needs a lesson in tact.

Originally Posted by lifeadventure

I just hope he doesn't think he has to always walk on eggshells around me.

Really? Talking to you in a respectful, caring, and non abusive manner is not walking on eggshells. It's called being nice.

Thank you all for your comments. Your thoughts have made me realize that I have been wrong and need to start standing up for myself Thank you all!

Great. Now keep that attitude...and when you start feeling otherwise again, come back and read this thread. Read your own words, and pretend they are coming from someone else.....and ask yourself "what would I tell them if this were my friend?".

Hopefully you'll stick around WH. You can probably help alot of women, and help build your confidence even more.