Thread: is it an emotional affairs as well?? sighz...

my husband and I met not long ago, around sep 2009 and I got pregnant with our son around beginning of 2010, and got married in between 2010 as well, everything went too fast, i guess i haven't known him that well before going into a long term commitment. He was a very nice guy, he is honest to me and we were very loving at the beginning, but after I gave birth to my son, we fought soooo much, almost everyday if not every 2 days, long story short, I found him facebook-ing his ex. gf that hurted him so bad and left him for no reason 7 years ago, he told me they never chat before, but i peek in his facebook and saw them chatting to each other after they broke up and even talked on the phone, that's before he met me, they stopped after he was with me but after I gave birth they started talking again, they would chat and he would put "love ya always" at the end of the message.

he had told me how much he hate her, how much he would want her to get the f outta his life, but now i caught him chatting on facebook with her, he promised he'll stop. I think he stopped for about 3-4 months and then he message her again one day, just random question, and they started chatting again, this time my husband told her about our relationship, how we fight so much for the past few months and that we were not ment to be together and this relationship is not working out and stuffs like that.....i was very very upset after reading it. (the reason we fight is because of the overwhelming of a new baby and the loads of work i have to do in the house and taking care of the baby and him, (with no help just myself!) i guess i got too much and my mood is bad?)
he would say all those to her but in front of me, he won't say it, he said because he is scare im gonna be mad and we fight again...

and he had changed his facebook password every since because he thinks im peeking into it....so i am not sure if they are still chatting or not now....

and few days ago, i peek into his phone (he normally LOCKED his phone, need a password to get in!!!!!!) but i happened to saw his password and i went in to his phone and i saw him texting a person, sexually, about how big his "thing" is and he asked her what her xxx looks like and stuffs....i couldn't read them long enough just had a short peek because he was just having a shower and i don't have enough time to read all of them, so i just saw one person, i am not sure how much there is.....

i saw that person ask him his full name, his size, where he lives and stuffs and he replied honestly about everything, not a single lie....(wow, you don't even know that person and u told her everything....)

but i feel very very lost right now, he told me i am the love of his life, he told me (also his mom, his step dad, his sister, everybody in his family) said he won't cheat and he is not the kind of person that will cheat (because his real dad was a cheater and cheated with some woman and left him and his sister with their mom that have no money and no help, so he is supposed to know what it's like to cheat and he will never do such things!)
but i caught him a few time here now, i am not sure if those are consider cheating, he just use typing but didn't really have action going on yet. (he goes to work and come home on time every day, ever since, weekends and holiday he will spend with us) he never really go anywhere without us other than going to work, so i am pretty sure he never "action-ly" cheat on me.


i am sorry if i've typed too much, but i don't know who to talk to about this and what should i do... i hope someone can give me some suggestion, what should i do...

thanks so much for reading