My husband and I have been together since 07. The way our relationship started was rocky from the beginning. I had a boyfriend and he had a wife. I know what you’re thinking what I was thinking to marry this guy. Well my relationship was domed to fail due to distance. My boyfriend lived three hours away from me with both of us being in the army. I would always make the effort to go see him but in two years time he probably came down to see me twice. So I was kind of feed up with that. In addition to him being a mama's boy. in the mean time at my job I met this men who was going through a divorce when we met. We deployed together and got pretty close while in Iraq. When we came back we were still talking so I decided to break my relationship off with my boyfriend.

Soon after that I got relocated while I was talking to this other men i told him i was not going to do another long distance relationship and we let it at that. I got relocated and about three month this men i had a one year relationship managed to break his contract and change his assignment to where i was at. So we started talking again and decided to move in together. His divorce came through and our relationship was going great until he got deployed again this time with out me.

During his deployment he got very jealous and wanted to control my every move from Iraq. He would constantly call me and would get really upset when i didn’t answer the phone. It got really stressful to the point where i didn’t want to talk to him because i knew we would argue about the same thing. I didn’t want to be home alone so i went to friends and usually spend the night at my girl’s house or would go to clubs and hand out. He took that as me cheating on him. One night i had a get together at our house with all coworkers just diner and some drinks, well he hated the idea and got really upset at me.

We continued to argue till the day he came back home. We talked about everything that had happened in his absence and try to pick up our lives together again. Shortly after that we got married. Yep i married this guy. All in love for the first few month of our marriage everything was great yet little did i know that he still felt that i had cheated on him. oh i didn’t mention he has a son who is six years old. So is his turn to go see his son and so he goes while he is gone he doesn’t answer my calls for 3 days so I though some thing had happen to him. I call every number possible to find him, even went to his sergeant major and chain of command which didn’t really help because his sgm made it seem as if we had an argument and my husband didn’t want to talk to me. So feeling frustrated and suspicious I started snooping around. I call our airline card and try to find if the flight he took had made it to its destination safely. Turns out that the flight he gave me he was never on it. So I keep snooping around and now mad I check his back statement and what I found just broke my heart apart. He had a charge for a city not his destination. So im now mad and after a few days and nothing from him I called his ex wife and I ask her to tell him when she saw him that he needed to contact home. While im waiting for him to call home I keep snooping around wondering what else I would find. So I check our cell phone bill and I notice all this call and text to this same number, call for hrs every day. So I called the number and a girl pick up. So I asked what’s her relationship to my husband and of course her being hesitant she tells me that they have been talking for month and that she is just an old friend from hs which I don’t believe at this point. I call his cell and it being off I checked his voice mail. This same girl that I had just called had left him several messages on his cell calling him baby and honey where you are and why is this crazy lady calling her and telling her it was his wife. I was devastated and really mad at this point.

He finally decided to call me and I was furious because it took me calling his ex for him to call me. I blew up immediately and asked for explanations but all I got was nonsense. That he was still hurt and thinking that I had cheated on him. That he went to see his friends first and she happened to run into him. That he knew he had done wrong and didn’t know how to face me and tell me.

Of course I don’t believe him and I’m so heart broken I don’t know what to do. We’ve only been married for a year now and to have to be going through this is killing me. I also think maybe this is my punishment for having started a relationship with a man while we were still barely getting over another one. I love him but I don’t know if I can move on from this.