I have major problems!!!!!
So here it goes.....about 2 months ago my husband and I had an on going threesome with a mutual friend. At first, I was pissed at my husband for even thinking it would be ok to approach her, cuz I was jealous. I don't know who I was jealous of but I was freaking out inside. But after a few times I knew that I had nothing to worry about and discovered I REALLY liked it. It started to seem like she was jealous of our relationship (she actually told us that) and we were not making good decisions as far as how we were going about our life in the preceding weeks, so we decided to end things with her on a sexual level before it ruined our friendship. So as far as that situation goes everything turned out ok. After that my husband and I started talking about trying to find a woman to have another threesome with. We looked on a few website that help with connecting couples who have the same interest, but we haven't found anyone who interests us. So in the mean time, I'm really horny all the time since the threesome. My hormones and emotions are going crazy. I went on one of those websites just browsing around. I was looking at adds for men seeking women, just because I was curious. Well for some crazy reason (this is why I need help) I answered an add and ended up meeting a COMPLETE stranger at a park and had sex with him! This is not who I am. And it was definitely consensual sex! I don't want to leave my husband. I love him soo much. But I don't want to tell him and break his heart. But the bad thing is I wanna do it again. I would have done it again with the stranger but he would return my txts or calls. It's like I have something inside me telling me to do it. Lately I've been thinking about my husbands friend. I have told my husband in the past that if I had the chance I would love to have sex with his friend. My husband told me the only way he would let me, is if we could swing or swap with them, but my husband isn't attracted to his friends wife. This is really tearing my up inside because I have all these thoughts and feelings going on inside of me that I can't control. I'm afraid I'm gonna make another HUGE mistake and do something bad. I need help???
It's a two way street, your husband was attracted to your mutual friend, possed the question and it happened.
I think you are both correct in "not" having sex with "any" mutual friends, one gets attached to one of you and so, eventually epic failure in marriage.
So I agree with him regarding not doing anything with "his friend" and besides what sort of shock may occur if he was even approached? You don't say that they swing in any event.
The two way street, I mean, he can not say "no I don't find her attractive enough" after all you gave in to his desire?
He's more than likely awakened the adventurous side of you, experimental, the urge to take, it's only sex..But, you two need to sit down and form some boundaries, this could way get out of hand and your marriage could end.
There surely are heeps of swingers out there, keep searching until you find compatability with whom you both agree you could try this again with given you are both open to it.
You don't know if he is doing the same as you either. But, imagine, if he is not? And, how he would feel that you cheated on him with a man? So far it's only be a "woman" .. And, this is all new to you both...
Kick yourself off that site and set some boundries and work out where you "both" go collectively, together on this..
Do we not realise that in order to find a soul
It doesn't happen over night
if truth were to be told.
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