Thread: loveless marriage

If a husband truly loves his wife then he will definitely show it, right? I was just thinking that I might have a loveless marriage because we hardly ever have sex. We do it only about once one week or once every two weeks. He is the one that controls it. Whenever we plan on having sex he always cancels it. For instance, he will say we'll do it Monday and then later on in the day he will cancel for some reason and then say we'll do it Tuesday and then the process will continue for the next couple of days. It upsets me when he cancels it. Whenever he cancels it he tries to make up for it by buying me dvds. I own approximately 330 dvds. The worst part about this is we're trying have our first baby. We've been trying for about three years now without any success. Sperm can't meet egg when your husband hardly ever gives you any , but he can't understand that. He says that even though we might not do it very often I should still be able to get pregnant and since nothing has happened yet he says I must have a fertility problem. Its possible, but when we decide to get checked out for any problems he wont get tested. He says his sperm should be perfectly healthy because he has a good work out regimen and plus there is no way in he would jack off in one of those cups. He doesn't masturbate at all. He prefers to have his orgasms by oral or regular vaginal sex. He doesn't even really like to touch his penis at all. Practically the only time he touches it is when he pees. He doesn't even touch it when it itches. When that happens he just maneuvers he legs around to get it to subside. I also wish he could be more lovey douby by kissing me more and doing more of all that other stuff. He tells me his loves me regularly, but just doesn't give me sex very often and all that. Another reason why I think I might have a loveless marriage is we never go out. We never go out to eat because he hates to hear the music the play on the intercom and doesn't want to see the tvs. Take out, the drive through, and delivery is what he likes whenever we decide to eat out. All we ever do is work out together. Go to the lake to swim and kayak, jog around the neighborhood, or go to the gym. Every night as soon as we finish dinner he'll hide in the basement. He likes to relax down there by reading books, the newspaper, and other stuff. Am I paranoid here?