You probably (obviously) don't want to hear it, but it is *very* important to be aware of all the potential problems that will likely come up. It doesn't mean that it will, but you need to be aware. Choosing to ignore people because you assume they're bitter, is not a good way to handle it. The "lalalala I'm not listening" approach is not healthy. Being aware of hazards is not the same as accepting that they're going to happen, but to be unaware of the potential problems is just going to create even more trouble if those problems do come up for you two. Learn from other peoples mistakes, don't ignore them. By listening to these people, you can head off (and see) problems before they become problems. I'm happily married, and grew up in the military, and my parents, as well as my husband and I, are successful because we were aware of all the problems that could come up, and actively work to keep those common issues from becoming problems. Nothing is perfect, but our lives are much easier because we are already prepared to deal with these problems, instead of letting them become unmanageable.
How have things been going in the last month? How has the transition been going? Will he be visiting soon?
I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
Patrick Henry
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