Can love song help us express ourselves

**Changinmyways** · 10-10-2011 09:33 PM

So this is whats wrong I have four boys and they seem to take alot out of my relationship, so he say...He wanted me to do something for him I couldn't at the moment because my boy where there, he became upset because he say I give to much of my time to them and not him...I feel just because he as no kids he doesn't noe personaly how much time kids really take when your raising them on your own...it's not like he didn't noe in the beginning cause he lived with me before but because now we are currently living together he feels im not doing enuff for him...When Indeed im feel im just keeping it equal...Hard times always come but the thing is how to make it thru when you have a person like mines who require you to assure them daily how yiu really feel and if he feels your not for him he takes off all the time...i need ah relationship counselor...I love this man because he is what im not...

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 10-11-2011 03:33 PM

What do you mean he is what you are not?

It is challenging dividing your love...

I have a diabetic dog, 6am food/injection and 6pm same.. At 5pm, an egg to get her through the hour, then I walk her, then there is his dog, so his dog must walk as well, get fed as well..Then there is a 15 and a half year old pomeranian, she had a small stroke, so I have to tend to her as well, with helping her get down the stairs to go outside, daily, to you know

Then there is the stray cat, the two rabbits, and then there is my job, full on, a shop and salesperson, then there is here..

THEN there is my fiance and his daughter who stays with us twice a week. Does he sometimes feel left out? Yes..Does he help out? Yes. Does he understand? Yes.

I have to remind myself, whilst my life is full, he is part of that cup a very big part... We all need love, re-assurance, sex for bonding as well as pleasure...4 Kids is a handful but instead of getting upset that he doesn't understand as he doesn't have children, hear what he is really saying...He is saying whilst you run around and tend for them all day and all night, he is being neglected, even if you feel you give him "some" attention... It can't be as equal as you think or else he wouldn't be saying these things. Sit back and really view this from his side and look at it over the past week, the attention, love, hugs, warmth, time out you have given just to him.

I do... every couple of days of the week, and I adjust things to ensure we have a date, we have our time, we have sex, we have our life....it's important..